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Proud Wife
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Re: Stephen's Story

Postby Proud Wife » Mon Sep 18, 2017 12:28 pm

Sandie, wish you and your sons long life. Are you still sitting Shiva? Have asked for my details to be passed onto you if you'd like contact away from forum x

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Re: Stephen's Story

Postby Proud Wife » Mon Sep 18, 2017 12:45 pm

Amended post below...I couldn't fathom how to delete
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Re: Stephen's Story

Postby PCUK Nurse Dianne » Mon Sep 18, 2017 3:04 pm

Dear Sandie,

I am sorry to hear of Stephen's passing, however pleased to hear he was at peace in his last hours and that he had his loved family with him at this time. Please do accept our heartfelt condolences on Stephen's passing. You have shown as other's before and around you an amazing amount of courage and strength Sandie and as always lovely to have your forum family support you at this difficult time.

Thinking of you at this time.

Jeni and Dianne
Pancreatic Cancer Specialist Nurses
Pancreatic Cancer UK

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Re: Stephen's Story

Postby Proud Wife » Tue Sep 19, 2017 11:16 am

Sandie, I think we might know each other. I've sent a request for my details to be passed with the names of my Mum and Dad. If you are who I think you are, I last saw you in Cafe Rouge years ago. I won't post personal details here of course as it's an open forum but it may well be a coincidence and there are more Sandras and Stephens of the same age group. If my parent's names don't mean anything to you, would you please be kind enough to let me know in due course when you feel up to it.

Hope you are coping as well as you can be, given the circumstances

Love Proud Wife x

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Re: Stephen's Story

Postby stepuha » Thu Sep 21, 2017 2:28 pm

Dear Sandie,
I am sorry to hear about Stephen's passing but glad that it was peaceful and Stephen was surrounded by family.
Sending you love and strength,

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Re: Stephen's Story

Postby Sandiemac » Mon Oct 09, 2017 12:36 pm

Hello all my forum friends,

I thought you may be interested in how I was getting on.

I have just been re-reading your lovely comments made when Stephen first died and once again they bring tears to my eyes, not because of why they were written but because of the genuine empathy and concern they display. I can't thank everyone enough for their support.

So, I embarked on the paperwork marathon once the funeral was over (what a boon Tell Us Once is) and now have just come back from a week's fly and flop in Cyprus, on my own. A couple of people said "how brave of you to go away alone" and there were moments when I thought I had made a mistake, especially when I was moved from the first disastrous hotel to a 5* all suite one in Paphos. On the first night, when I sat down at my table for two and looked at all the couples around me I felt so alone and sad, especially when the waitress removed the surplus place setting. However it got easier after that. I spent the days looking at the sea, relaxing, reading and eating lovely food. I could have wished to have slept better but you can't have everything.

Now I am home sorting out the washing, getting back to the post which has built up, and thinking about visiting my son and family in Portugal for my birthday next month. I am refusing to make any real decisions and not looking too far ahead.

In the days before I went on holiday I defrosted the kitchen freezer and the big one in the garage and threw away some stuff (my sons laugh at me for insisting food is perfectly fine when it's past its best before date). That's something that had been on my mind. Next job, sorting out all the many drawers in the kitchen. Mind you, with me that usually means putting most of it back!

Love to you all on this horrible journey.

Sandie xx

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Re: Stephen's Story

Postby Justamo » Mon Oct 09, 2017 8:17 pm

You're a star Sandiemac, and well done for Going Alone. The secret is to take a book or a Kindle into the dining room with you. It takes up the extra space at the table, and it means you don't have to look round the room at couples while you're eating. In these days of Liberated Ladies a solitary woman is no longer regarded with suspicion (or worse) by fellow travellers.

You sound as though you Have a Plan and that's a good way to be. I hope you go to Portugal next month - always good to have something nice on the horizon - and that you are being good to yourself. Good luck with rearranging the kitchen drawers though - I try quite hard not to collect gadgets (just why does anybody need a pineapple corer ? We're not exactly knee-deep in pineapples, are we ?) a few always slip through, as well as elastic bands and skewers.

Of course we are interested in how you are getting on, and it's nice to have you back - even if you decide to move on it's good to know that you are feeling positive and that you've taken a break away from the nitty gritty back home.

Take care my love,

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Re: Stephen's Story

Postby Wife&Mum » Tue Oct 10, 2017 9:23 am

Dear Sandie
As Mo says, it sounds like you are finding your way on this really hard stretch of the horrible journey. Thank you for updating us, I've been thinking of you and hoping that you've been ok.
Much love
W&M xx