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Sueoliver
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Re: Mum's diagnosis

Postby Sueoliver » Sat Jan 30, 2016 9:21 am

Thankyou everyone for your kind words and support. It has been a week since Mum passed away and I've kept myself as busy as possible! It all seems surreal and I miss her. All I can say is it hurts!
Love to everyone,
Sue xxx

Proud Wife
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Re: Mum's diagnosis

Postby Proud Wife » Sat Jan 30, 2016 5:45 pm

I'm sure it must do Sue.

Make sure you find time to take care of yourself too at this really difficult time.

Thinking of you xxxx

Didge
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Re: Mum's diagnosis

Postby Didge » Sat Jan 30, 2016 7:30 pm

Thinking of you Sue. xx

Sueoliver
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Re: Mum's diagnosis

Postby Sueoliver » Sat Feb 06, 2016 8:20 am

It's been 2 weeks since Mum passed away! Been busy arranging and sorting. The funeral is on Thursday and I'm hoping to read an eulogy . Not sure if I will beable to but we will see.
I have had so many cards and flowers I ran out of vases! I know she was loved by so many people. My family are busy arranging fundraising events starting with a skipathon for the hospice on the 14th, a ball on the 20th which sold out amazingly and my niece is taking part in a skydive for PC! It keeps us all focused and hopefully in the future no one will have to go through what my Mum did!
Sending love to all my forum friends you are all amazing!
Love Sue xxx

Proud Wife
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Re: Mum's diagnosis

Postby Proud Wife » Sat Feb 06, 2016 10:00 am

Hope all goes as well as it possibly can on Thursday Sue.

And the best of luck to all your family in the fund raising efforts - brilliant! xx

sandraW
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Re: Mum's diagnosis

Postby sandraW » Sat Feb 06, 2016 10:30 am

Hi Sue,
Lovely to hear of all the events you have planned, well done to you all.
As for your eulogy, our celebrant told me to read it out loud over and over again, until I was at peace with the words. That is just what I did, I would be marching up and down the lounge saying it over and over and gradually I could manage to say it without breaking down. I hope it works for you too. I will be thinking of you on Thursday, love sandrax xx

Fifi

Re: Mum's diagnosis

Postby Fifi » Sat Feb 06, 2016 6:12 pm

Hi Sue,

Lovely to hear from you. You will be able to read the eulogy, your Mum will give you the strength. I wrote one for Dad. I hate being in front of people, can't stand all eyes on me. It was important I did it though. The minister stood by my side, I told him I thiught I would struggle and he said he would help if I did. I didn't look up. Will there be a minister or someone that could help you?

Leila xx

Sueoliver
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Re: Mum's diagnosis

Postby Sueoliver » Thu Feb 11, 2016 11:58 am

So today is the day I have to say goodbye! I'm sitting here feeling physically sick! I know you have all travelled this journey with me and I know you understand. Mum was my support , strength and comfort and maybe the roles were reversed during her illness but I wish she could get me through this today!
Love to everyone,
Sue xxx

sandraW
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Re: Mum's diagnosis

Postby sandraW » Thu Feb 11, 2016 12:48 pm

Sue,
She will be there with you, do it for her its the last "thing" you can do for her, thinking of you all love sandrax xx

PCUK Nurse Jeni
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Re: Mum's diagnosis

Postby PCUK Nurse Jeni » Fri Feb 12, 2016 10:43 am

Hi Sue,

How did the funeral go yesterday?

I am sure it was lovely, and that you did a fine job.

Thinking of you,
Jeni.

sandraW
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Re: Mum's diagnosis

Postby sandraW » Sat Feb 13, 2016 1:16 pm

Hi Sue,
Like Jeni I was wondering how it all went on Thursday,
thinking of you, love sandrax xx

Sueoliver
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Re: Mum's diagnosis

Postby Sueoliver » Sat Feb 13, 2016 5:19 pm

The funeral was hard but we did everything we thought Mum would have loved. The sun shone and the family flowers were all natural and like a country garden which I asked for. I managed to speak, very emotionally with many pauses and deep breaths, but I managed. The grandchildren also spoke beautifully. I miss her so much. Xxx

PCUK Nurse Jeni
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Re: Mum's diagnosis

Postby PCUK Nurse Jeni » Mon Feb 15, 2016 5:40 pm

Well done Sue!
And thanks for the update.

Jeni.

sheena
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Re: Mum's diagnosis

Postby sheena » Mon Feb 15, 2016 9:05 pm

Well done sue sending you a huge hug x

allyc1
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Re: Mum's diagnosis

Postby allyc1 » Tue Feb 16, 2016 10:22 am

Hi Sue

Hope you're keeping OK,I am still getting over losing my dad back in Nov, its been over 3 months and it still really hurts I think it's because I am haunted by what I saw and all his suffering I think it will take a while to fade. I know that at least he is no longer suffering like your mum he is at peace.
Look after yourself
Sending love Alison x