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Sueoliver
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Re: Wish someone would help him

Postby Sueoliver » Mon Mar 30, 2015 5:28 pm

Hi Leila I hope you have heard from your Dad to put your mind at rest. Hope everything is ok.
Love Sue x

Fifi

Re: Wish someone would help him

Postby Fifi » Mon Mar 30, 2015 5:48 pm

Hi Sue,

Heard from Dad just over a hour ago. He sounds very breathless. He said the pain under his ribs, is like a pang, and like stitch. He told me that he was actually in the hospital this morning, when the pain came on! He didn't tell anyone because he didn't want to be kept in! He said he is going to try some tea and see if the pain goes away.
He has a ct scan tomorroe, first one since December. I know he is incredibly anxious for this.
If he had mentioned the pain while he was in there, they could have given him pain relief. I can do it for him, but will take me a few days. Then the chemist will have to order them in. He is such a stubborn man.

Leila xx

Fifi

Re: Wish someone would help him

Postby Fifi » Mon Mar 30, 2015 7:51 pm

Dads going into hospital. His girlfirend just called me and asked what was wrong with him because he is distressed. I called him and he is sobbing his heart out and can hardly breathe. Called the cancer hospital and they have called him and he is going in.
At least he isn't on his own. I should have called someone earlier. He begged me not to, but I couldn't stand it any longer.

Leila xx

rsk1974
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Re: Wish someone would help him

Postby rsk1974 » Mon Mar 30, 2015 8:11 pm

At least the hospital will be able to get his pain under control and can reassure him. Hopefully you can relax a bit as you know he is being cared for and you can call a nurse for an update day or night. Hope you all have a peaceful night.x

Sueoliver
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Re: Wish someone would help him

Postby Sueoliver » Wed Apr 01, 2015 8:41 am

Hi Leila how is your Dad? Have the hospital sorted out the pain and breathlessness? I hope everything is ok.
Love Sue x

sandraW
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Re: Wish someone would help him

Postby sandraW » Wed Apr 01, 2015 10:15 am

Hi Leila, I hope dad is feeling better, and getting better care than we and Sue's mum is, take care love sandrax

wackywacky
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Re: Wish someone would help him

Postby wackywacky » Wed Apr 01, 2015 1:06 pm

Keep going Fifi you are doing all you can for your Dad xxx wacky

Fifi

Re: Wish someone would help him

Postby Fifi » Thu Apr 02, 2015 9:16 pm

Thank you so much rsk1974, Sue,Sandra and Wacky.

Sorry I haven't been on here. Last few days have been horrendous.
When Dad was first admitted, they gave him paracetamol for pain. I called the hospital in Sheffield that he goes to and told dads oncologist. He called the hospital and told them what to give.
Dad has been incredibly upset, been so horrible.
I went there yesterday. When I got there, he asked for water. They said no, as he was on a water restriction. I said, I hope you are joking, he is dehydrated he needs to drink as much as possible. They went and checked and came back and said they had notes mixed up with the man in the bed before him!
Next, the doctor came round and asked how long dad had been on radiotherapy!

Dad had a CT scan on tuesday. They were going to give him results yesterday but I was worried they would have nothing to compare them to, as last time he was there was when he was diagnosed. I called his oncologist and he said he has called the hospital and asked them to call him first, and that he had also made the December scan available for comparison. SO, the doctor cam round and informed us dads cancer has spread to the liver. I told him we have known this for 14 months and has he spoken to Sheffield. He said no. I asked which scan he was comparing it to, he said the one from 14 months ago. I told him what the oncologist said and he huffed about and walked out.

Next, a lady doctor came and asked me how I am in contact with dads oncologist, i said frequently, by phone and email. She said, so can I leave it with you to get results then. I said why not! Then I got my Dad out.

The pain went about lunch time, he said it went as fast as it came. They gave him 5mg oxycodone.

This morning he called me to say his pain was back. But he had some oxycodone and it went completely again. He is supposed to take it every 4 hours, and he won't wake during the night to take, so that's probably why.
We never got any results in the finish, so we will next get those on the 13th April. Going to be a long wait for us both.

Leila xx

nikkis
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Re: Wish someone would help him

Postby nikkis » Thu Apr 02, 2015 9:26 pm

Hi Leila,
Wonderful to hear you are still doing such an amazing job fighting for your Dad, but how frustrating that your fight is so relentless, made worse by so much incompetence!

Hope your Dad's pain is under control. Has your Dad tried any of the painkiller patches, and then he wouldn't have to worry about taking them at night?

Lots of love,
Nikki

Fifi

Re: Wish someone would help him

Postby Fifi » Thu Apr 02, 2015 9:36 pm

Hi Nikki,

Lovely to hear from you. Read that you have been away. How are things with you and your girls?

When Dad has pain, he is very breathless and sounds dreadfull. But it doesn't gradually wear off, it just goes, just like that. I didn't know you could get patches? Are these the same as oxycodone? Will definitely speak to someone about those for him. Thank you.

I know the scan results are going to be bad, I don't think folfox has worked for him at all and that it has grown on the liver. But, no good guessing.

Really nice to see you on the forum Nikki.

Leila xx

nikkis
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Re: Wish someone would help him

Postby nikkis » Thu Apr 02, 2015 10:04 pm

Hi Leila,
I can't remember if there are oxcoydone patches, but there are some that work in the same way, so worth asking.

Girls and I are ok, we miss Paul very much, but we try our best to be strong and make him proud. I have started my training for my 100km walk for PCUK in September with my friends, which is a good focus, and the girls are working hard at school. I plan to go back to work at some point soon (I am a Health Visitor). Have put Paul's picture on the tribute wall, if you want to see what he looked like.

Keep doing what you are doing Leila, your Dad must be so proud of you and I am proud of you too. I hope if I am ever ill my girls fight my corner as you well as you fight your Dad's.

Love,
Nikki

sandraW
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Re: Wish someone would help him

Postby sandraW » Thu Apr 02, 2015 10:18 pm

Hi Leila, you are doing a wonderful job, its just soooooo frustrating, we are having similar problems with staff that just don't seem able to listen, they ask for information, you give them the info, but then they do something totally different, so what's the point of asking. I do hope your Dad can control his pain, and that you get better results than you are expecting, its all so scary, take care love sandrax xx

Nikki, Lovely to hear from you, thanks for your continued support, I really appreciate it, so glad to hear you are doing ok, but then I knew you would, but don't be too hard on yourself grief and tears are healing, I will definitely have a look and see your lovely Paul on the tribute wall love to you and your girls sandrax xx

Fifi

Re: Wish someone would help him

Postby Fifi » Thu Apr 02, 2015 10:25 pm

Thank you Nikki,

I will definitley find out about those patches. Can we sponsor you? I would like to. I have just looked at Paul's picture. What a lovely warm smile. He looks like he was a very kind and fun man, easy on the eye too. Thank you for your kind words. Dad doesn't always make it easy to help him, with his stubborness, but I do my best.

Sandra,
I replied on your post, I have read about the people at your hospital, it just does not shock me anymore. Level of care has gone out the window.

Leila xx

nikkis
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Re: Wish someone would help him

Postby nikkis » Thu Apr 02, 2015 10:45 pm

Of course you can sponsor me Leila, that's lovely of you. I have set up the page but haven't sent it out to anyone yet, as family and friends were very generous donating to our hospice in Paul's memory, so I am waiting awhile before I ask again!

https://www.justgiving.com/Nikkisalt

Didge
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Re: Wish someone would help him

Postby Didge » Fri Apr 03, 2015 10:26 am

Leila, thinking of you always, and hoping the scan isn't too bad. Your dad has done remarkably well with liver tumours for last 14 months so hope he carries on. Have been reading your posts but not posting much recently as we had a bit of a crisis. New apps now set up after he tried to change hospitals and cancelled everything. Got him back to old one in the nick of time. Nikki, saw your tribute a while ago. Very handsome man, your Paul. Hope you manage to enjoy Easter with your girls. That goes for all of you on here! Not always easy I know. xxx