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Re: Trevor's Story

Postby Sueoliver » Sun May 10, 2015 5:59 pm

Sandra ,
That sounded brilliant! It made me smile and also brought tears to my eyes. I would love you to still post on here please don't leave us!
Take care of yourself and you should be proud to have arranged such a lovely send off.
Love Sue x

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Re: Trevor's Story

Postby nikkis » Sun May 10, 2015 7:34 pm

Well done Sandra that sounded absolutely amazing. A fitting tribute for a very special man. I spoke at Paul's funeral, it felt the least I could do after all he had been through, and it has also helped me, as when I worry that I can't do things, I think if I can do that, I am strong enough to do anything I need to!

Lots of love,


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Re: Trevor's Story

Postby PCUK Nurse Dianne » Mon May 11, 2015 3:17 pm

Dear Sandra,

What an amazing day, Trevor would have been so proud. I laughed, and of course I would not be human if I did not admit it all brought tears to my eyes. It sounds so fabulous, and most importantly that this is how Trevor would have wanted it to be.

As others have said Sandra, you have been an inspiration and very supportive of your other 'forum family' members, so i know they will still be keen to hear from you when you are up to it. Thank you for sharing this special memory of Trevor.

Take care and our thoughts are with you in these days ahead.

Pancreatic Cancer Specialist Nurse
Pancreatic Cancer UK

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Re: Trevor's Story

Postby Slewis7313 » Mon May 11, 2015 10:28 pm

Sandra, it sounds like the perfect 'send off', if somewhat unusual. It also sounds like it was well choreographed with appropriate props. The fact that words were said by family members of all ages sounds like a nice touch. He was obviously much loved and must have had a great sense of humour. I am really saddened by your loss but glad that you were able to arrange what must have been an amazing celebration of his life.

Please take care.



Re: Trevor's Story

Postby Fifi » Tue May 12, 2015 6:36 pm


I think it takes a lot, and says a lot, about what a good relationship you and trevor had, to ' brighten' up a funeral. Something I could never have done. I nearly didn't have a wake, for fear of laughter! I think you were so brave to stand up and read your letter for Trevor. From the little I know, I know he would have been proud of his entire family.
I hope you stick around on here Sandra, I would miss you. And thank you, for your beautiful flower. As I have said on previous posts and to yourself, such a beautiful idea, and I treasure it, thank you.

Leila xx

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Re: Trevor's Story

Postby Didge » Wed May 13, 2015 10:49 pm

Sandra, the funeral sounded great, if you know what I mean! I am thinking of you in the times to come, it's often harder when everything is 'supposed' to return to 'normal', I know there will be times when it is easier and times when it is not. I do hope you come back to the forum from time to time. There are several people whose journeys started around the same time as ours and it is hard to say goodbye, but inevitably people need to gradually build their lives again - a life without the ever present threat of PC. Sending you lots of love, Didge xx

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Re: Trevor's Story

Postby Janiebobs » Sat May 16, 2015 8:03 pm

Sorry Sandra,
I don't get on the site as much now. I was sorry to read the very sad news about Trevor.
I am glad his funeral went well. You were all very brave being able to read at his funeral. I was in bits at my dad's funeral though my teenage daughter read a poem. We had a celebrant for my dad's funeral also who made sure the day was very personal and the funeral director very kind.
Look after yourself over the coming weeks
Jane x

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Re: Trevor's Story

Postby RLF » Mon May 18, 2015 2:06 pm

Hi Sandra. Glad the funeral went well and you managed to approach it with the humour that Trevor would have wanted. I'm very impressed you got through your speach, I know I wouldn't be able to!

I hope you're coping ok now, I can imagine it's odd to not have to be "fighting" all the time now and I for one definitely hope you still come on.

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Re: Trevor's Story

Postby sandraW » Tue May 19, 2015 1:26 pm

Thank you all for your lovely replies.
I went to the oncology unit yesterday to say some very well deserved Thankyous I took some cards and started with the girls in the cafe, went onto pharmacy, then outpatients, treatment room, and finally the health centre, went in bright and breezy, came out a blubbering wreck, but a very happy blubbering wreck.
The main comment from every one was how every time they saw Trevor, he made them smile, and that he was a breath of fresh air, and that they missed him too.
So even though I came out upset, I was also very proud, it's probably good for me to shed some tears, as really they were happy tears, strange as that seems, love to all sandrax

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Re: Trevor's Story

Postby Sueoliver » Wed May 20, 2015 7:08 am

Hi Sandra that was a lovely thing to do I can imagine how you would have happy and sad feelings all at the same time! I hope you are ok and have some good support around you.
Sue xxx

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Re: Trevor's Story

Postby SusannaUK » Wed May 20, 2015 2:44 pm

Dear Sandra,

I am so sorry to read that Trevor has passed away. I have tears in my eyes now.
I haven't been on the forum for a long time. I am glad that the funeral went well. And what a special funeral.
You and Trevor were always so brave a true inspiration to everyone here. You must be so proud of him and yourself!
It was such a nice thing that you went to the oncologist unit to say thank you to everyone. I also still keep in touch with my husband's oncologist and the hospice too. Actually I will help to a counsellor in the hospice to run a group for people who lost their loved ones.
Well done Sandra for all the things you've done for Trevor!
Please keep posting.
Lots of love,
Susanna xxx

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Re: Trevor's Story

Postby LMD » Thu May 21, 2015 7:57 pm

Dear Sandra
So very sorry for your loss.

What a lovely, unique, send off you gave Trevor!

Have not been on the forum for a while otherwise I would have written sooner. Take care and sending you love & strength for the coming months..xxx

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Re: Trevor's Story

Postby sheena » Fri Jul 10, 2015 11:49 pm

Hi Sandra Ty to taking the time to reply to me .I will definitely take your advice and go one day at a time.Do you think I can keep in touch with you ,I feel even though you have not long lost Trevor,that I would be able to relate with you many thanks sheenax

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Re: Trevor's Story

Postby sandraW » Sat Jul 11, 2015 12:29 am

Hi Sheena,

I am happy for you to have my email address if you would like to keep in touch that way, just let me know sandrax xx

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Re: Trevor's Story

Postby kittycat » Sat Jul 11, 2015 7:54 am

He Sandra, I can't believe it's so many weeks since you lost Trevor and just think you're so brave to keep on supporting those of us who are still on this dreadful journey. I can't imagine how you must be feeling, but thank you for taking the trouble to care.