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J_T
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Re: Folfirinox started on Wednesday and other stuff

Postby J_T » Wed Oct 23, 2013 3:13 pm

Lanzarote on Thursday! I'm losing it!

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Jwilson
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Re: Folfirinox started on Wednesday and other stuff

Postby Jwilson » Wed Oct 23, 2013 8:49 pm

Julia, more tears reading your write up about Ray's funeral. It seems that not only you loved him eh? Lanzarote well whatever next. Good for you. It will feel odd I'm sure without him but will take you out of home environment and you will enjoy the grandchildren. Hope the sun shines on your upturned apple cheeks!
June.....still fighting the very horrible fight x

karen17
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Re: Folfirinox started on Wednesday and other stuff

Postby karen17 » Thu Oct 24, 2013 9:47 am

Hi Julia and Kate,
The funeral sounded very fitting for a wonderful man and I don't think your comments about ashes etc are weird at all Julia. I feel the same about having Bob just up the road and I look out of my window daily to say 'morning and goodnight'.
I agree it's afterwards that it hits you as you feel you have lost your sense of purpose.
Anyway have a wonderful holiday, you totally deserve it. Look after each other
Karen xxx

KATB
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Re: Folfirinox started on Wednesday and other stuff

Postby KATB » Thu Oct 24, 2013 12:07 pm

Thanks Karen - so looking forward to some time away. It will be lovely to spend some quality time with the boys as I've been away from them so much over the last 7 months.

K
x

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Re: Folfirinox started on Wednesday and other stuff

Postby Cathy » Thu Oct 24, 2013 8:25 pm

Have a lovely well earned break Julia, Kate and the boys.

Come home tanned, well rested and a little bit fatter (remember those maxi dress tips).

Karen, I think you said you were going up north (Yorkshire?) for a few days? I hope, wherever you are you are getting lots and lots of TLC.

Love to you all

Cathy xx

KATB
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Re: Folfirinox started on Wednesday and other stuff

Postby KATB » Thu Oct 24, 2013 9:20 pm

Thank you - planning to have a lovely relaxing time. I just so wish dad was with us - last time I went to this villa was for a mini break with mum and dad only 12 months ago :cry:

K
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InfoForMum
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Re: Folfirinox started on Wednesday and other stuff

Postby InfoForMum » Thu Oct 24, 2013 11:38 pm

Hi ladies,

Sounds like this trip is going to be bittersweet. Not surprising, but at least it's away from bill paying, work and housework so hopefully you'll have time to do the relaxing and reflecting it sounds like you sorely need.

I suspect Ray would thoroughly approve of your plans and take great comfort from the fact that you are taking care of each other and yourselves.

Hope you have as many laughs as tears and not too many hangovers!

Sarah
XXX

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Re: Folfirinox started on Wednesday and other stuff

Postby belgrade » Fri Oct 25, 2013 1:16 am

Hello Julia, Kate and family,
Hope you are all having a well deserved holiday. I'm going to Crete on saturday with my daughter, her boyfriend and my 2 year old grand-daughter. like you said Kate with your family, the last time we were in Crete was September 2012 when Dave and I went with our daughter and grand-daughter. Seems unreal that he will not be going too, but we have wonderful memories of our holidays there as the girls were growing up....been going there now for 15 years. I hope you are coping Julia, I had a major panic tonight and wondered if it's too soon, but all booked now!!!!
Love to all my forum friends,
Hilary x

belgrade
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Re: Folfirinox started on Wednesday and other stuff

Postby belgrade » Fri Oct 25, 2013 1:19 am

Sorry....hope you are ok Karen, thinking of you.
Hilary x

KATB
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Re: Folfirinox started on Wednesday and other stuff

Postby KATB » Fri Oct 25, 2013 8:45 am

Thank you all you lovely ladies for your messages. Just doing some last minute packing then we are off. Jools is already there with my brother and apparently it's scorchio - hurrah!

K
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Re: Folfirinox started on Wednesday and other stuff

Postby Cathy » Fri Oct 25, 2013 10:42 am

Hi Hilary,

I just remembered reading a post of yours a little while back about Crete that I had intended to reply to.

Crete is a really special place for me and Jonathan as well. We always go to the same place and the last time we booked was less than a week from his diagnosis so actually getting there was very very special this time around.

It was hot when we left (12 Oct) so I hope the weather is good for you still too. We also had a little earthquake (a very little one) on our last day to add a bit of frisson to the holiday (which even temporarily helped the constipation problem lol).

Hope you have a really lovely time. It will feel very poignant I am sure, but I am also sure that, even though not physically with you, it will feel that Dave is there too.

We go to a place near Chania. Where do you go?

Cathy xx

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Re: Folfirinox started on Wednesday and other stuff

Postby PCUK Nurse Jeni » Fri Oct 25, 2013 12:24 pm

Have a fantastic holiday Kate and Julia.

Jeni.

belgrade
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Re: Folfirinox started on Wednesday and other stuff

Postby belgrade » Sat Oct 26, 2013 12:38 am

Hi Cathy,
Thank you for your kind reply. Dave regarded Crete as his second home, having made friends with Iannis and Maria who run the appartments we used to stay in. In fact, in 2009, Dave spent three weeks with Iannis helping with the olive harvest and was taken into their home and treated like one of the family. We spend most of our time in Kalyves, a typical working village about 20 Km from Chania, but this time we are going to Georgioupolis. Have planned another family holiday in Kalyves next year for my daughters and their husband/partner and grand-daughter when we will scatter Dave's ashes.
Love,
Hilary

Cathy
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Re: Folfirinox started on Wednesday and other stuff

Postby Cathy » Sat Oct 26, 2013 12:21 pm

OMG Hilary

The first time I went to Crete many years ago I stayed in Kalyves (for 3 weeks). Where Jonathan and I go (that he calls our 2nd home) is Almyrida -the next village along!! What a coincidence :). We had a cloudy day when we were there so I decided to go for a walk and walked to Kalyves. We also got a taxi 1 eve and went for a meal there having a drink at the little bar on the square and a meal in the taverna opposite (begins with A - been there years as I went when I stayed in Kalyves - Agrogali?).

We almost went to Georgoupolis for the day but ended up on the beach in Almyrida instead.

You and Dave are right. It is a special place.

What a small world :)

Cathy xx

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Re: Folfirinox started on Wednesday and other stuff

Postby Bee » Sun Oct 27, 2013 7:31 am

Julia and Kate,

Hope you all have a fantastic restful holiday where you cal relive memories and create new ones,
Take care,

Bee xx