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Darling Judith,

I am so very sorry that I was so wrapped up in my own situation that I have not been here for you. I am holding your hand across the interweb and sharing your grief.

It is a dreadful thing to be without the one who always held you up. I just keep telling myself that if Louis could bear his burden I must try and bear mine so that his life and suffering will not be for nothing and not be forgotten.

It's so very hard Judith but we will come through.

All my love, M xx

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PCUK Nurse Dianne

Dear Judith,

We are sorry to hear your sad news of Mark's passing. Please do accept our sincerest and heartfelt condolences at this sad time. It is warming to know that this amazing forum family 'dig deep' to support you.

It was also lovely to hear that you found peace and respite in the wonderful hospice environment and hope that Mark was comfortable and peaceful in his last days there.

Thinking of you Judith with our deepest sympathy,

The nursing team,

Pancreatic Cancer UK

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So sorry to her you have lost you beloved husband Mark to his truly horendous disease, I am pleased to hear you got to the hospice, they are amazing places and help to take the stress away from you, your famiy sound greatgiving you support, take care love sandrax xx

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Hi All

I have not been on here a lot since my husband passed away, its been a whirlwind of paperwork and emotions. Still not believing he wont walk through the door every evening. Still I am coping with friends and family to help me on the way. The things I have done so far, visited friends in Yately on my own. The biggest so far was driving myself to Cornwall on my own to visit more friends. Mark had always done the driving on long journeys, so I decided the sooner the better to do it on my own. I had a Sat Nav, a road map, a post it note with the main roads plus of course a photo of Mark on the front seat. I did it in 4hrs 20 mins with just one comfort stop, I was so proud of myself, plus I got back to. No speeding tickets in the post!!

On the 19th November, my husbands masonic lodge is holding a Charity Ball to raise funds specifically for Pancreatic Cancer UK, they have asked me to say a few words about PCUK about what it does and how the moneys are spent etc. I am hoping to get some facts and figures from the website, maybe one of the nurses could point me in the right direction.

Aside from that we raised in Marks memory just over £1400 from the funeral.

Much love to everyone battling this disease and the loved ones who are caring for them x

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Judith...that's brilliant.

I lost Nige on 23rd September and I am now starting to do the stuff that he has always done...I've done some tiling in the bathroom today and sorted some stuff in the garage out! I always used to have such a lot of confidence in myself, but as I've got older it's ebbed away and I really need to get it back.

What a fantastic amount you raised from the funeral...I hope your charity ball raises loads too.

Much love


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Hey Judith, what a brilliant amount raised from the funeral. People are just so lovely and generous around this ghastly disease that it is sometimes overwhelming. Cornwall is so lovely, I used to spend my summers in Mevagissey because my uncle owned the wheelhouse restaurant and B&B on the harbour front. I remember those long journeys though and my mum used to drive us down there in a mini !!

I hope the rest of the family is coping as well. I think you are doing amazingly well and it is still early days. I think as I have got older I have lost certain skills, my main one being able to deal with any electronic gadgets. I can't even set the tele up to all the gadgets. I just rely on the boys and my other half.

I hope the charity ball is an absolute success and I am sure the PCUK nurses will help you with the facts and figures.


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PCUK Nurse Jeni

Hi Judith,

Thank you for posting and for doing some fundraising for the charity - we are so very grateful.

In terms of facts and figures, yes, of course.

If you would like to email our communications team, who look after all things PCAM (Awareness month), then they will let you know the main stats we are working with this PCAM.

Their email address is:


I hope this is OK? And thank you again so much.

Kind regards,


Jeni Jones

Pancreatic Cancer Specialist Nurse

Support Team

Pancreatic Cancer UK

email: support@pancreaticcancer.org.uk

support line: 0808 801 0707

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