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Thank you all for your kind messages. This really is a terrible time, but I feel so fortunate to have a loving family around me and we are all supporting each other.

Bless you all, I hope you are all doing ok,



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Kate, I am very very sorry to read about your lovely brave Dad.

This illness is so horrible and cruel. When my Dad passed, a nurse said to me, " he takes the best first".

From only a few posts, it is easy to see how much your Dad was loved. I hope in time, you can take comfort from the fact that your Dad knew how much he was loved, and how much he loved you. Precious times.

Take care and don't be afraid to let out any feelings you have, no matter what they are.

Thinking of you and your family.

Leila xx

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Thank you so much Leila for your messages, your words are a great comfort, I didn't really think before about it all that way, but you are so right about how we have loved each other. And some of the most precious times are not always the most obvious, it can be simply a private moment, a throw away joke, a knowing glance…

As to feelings, it's a roller coaster and I'm not sure what's round the next bend.

I hope you are finding some peace yourself. I hope you have someone to talk to and share your feelings and thoughts. Please get in touch with me if you need to share - I'm not sure how that is achieved through this medium, but I hate to think that you feel alone and hope I could help.

My thoughts are with you,



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PCUK Nurse Rachel C

Dear Kate,

I am so sorry to hear this sad news.

On behalf of everyone at Pancreatic Cancer UK I would like to offer our heartfelt condolences.

Our thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time.

From all the support team


Pancreatic Cancer Nurse Specialist

Support and Information Team

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It really is those times you need to try and think of. Easier said than done, but it is those glances with your Dad that you need to treasure.

My Dad's last week, he was unable to speak as he had a stroke, which I saw. We shared some very precious moments in that week. I agreed to a syringe driver for Dad. I was telling him what the medications were going to be, and what they were for. I asked him if this was ok, as I was only guessing about his pain, and I didn't want to be wrong. He could only move his left arm at this time. He held his arm out and stroked my hair, and put my head on his shoulder and we loved each other for quite a while. Although he hurts me so deeply to think of it, because of the situation and how he was, I have ti take comfort in it, because I know how incredibly precious that moment was.

I think, no, I know, it would have been hard for your Dad to see you see him. He wouldn't want his little girl to see him like that. But I think he would have taken such immense comfort that you loved him so much, that you didn't want to leave him. Sometimes you don't need words to see such love.

Take care Kate,

Leila xx

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