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My Sweet Dad

Postby Maku42 » Mon Sep 02, 2019 5:20 pm

Dear All,


I’ve joined this forum as I needed some support.


My sweet dad was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer on 10 days ago. We have been advised that it is Stage 4, advanced and has spread to his liver. He had a CT scan in June which came back with the all clear, but he continued to have abdominal pain/diarrhea and the doctors advised it wasn’t anything serious. We ended up rushing him to hospital as the pain become unbearable and he was struggling. We received the heartbreaking news a few days later.

The doctors don’t feel that chemotherapy is an option at the moment as it would only make him sicker, so it is difficult to watch him deteriorate.  They are giving him steroids with the hope it will improve his symptoms.


I feel at a complete loss. It’s difficult to concentrate on work, when all I really want to do is be by his side. I know once he comes home he will need around the clock care and I don’t feel it is fair on my mum to shoulder the burden on her own, so I am considering taking time out to support her and my dad.  It’s just feels like a lot emotionally and I am struggling. I want to remain positive in front of my dad but it is difficult to watch him become a shadow of his former self.

Today we were advised that the growth has spread to his lungs and he possibly has days left....

PCUK Nurse Dianne
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Re: My Sweet Dad

Postby PCUK Nurse Dianne » Tue Sep 03, 2019 10:52 am

Dear Maku42,

Thank you for posting on the forum, we are sorry to hear your story and the cause that brings you to us. I am sure you will find some wonderful support from the forum family that are so very supportive here.

I would also like to offer the services our support team. Our support phone line is open from 10am to 4pm Monday to Friday (0808 801 0707) or you may wish to email us.

I will make contact with you outside of this forum too Maku42.

Thinking of you at this sad and difficult time.

Pancreatic Cancer Specialist Nurse
Pancreatic Cancer Support Team
Support Line: 0808 801 0707
Email: nurse@pancreaticcancer.org.uk