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shelda
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Re: Feeling totally lost

Postby shelda » Wed May 04, 2016 10:17 pm

With a heavy heart we had to say our final goodbye to my brave, beautiful and amazing mum. She fought this cancer with such dignity and bravery right until her final breath at 11.45 last night. I feel no regrets as to how we spent her final hours, myself, my dad and brother holding her, listening to all her favourite music and reminiscing about the great memories we have and will hold very dear. As her breathing got slower we told her as much as we loved her and wanted her with us she'd fought so hard and it was time she went to her dad. We can't thank the hospice enough for their compassion and care. It doesn't feel real at the moment I haven't actually cried properly I'm consoling others and feel a little numb if I'm honest. Thank you so much for your kind messages my lovely cyber friends xxx

alimc77
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Re: Feeling totally lost

Postby alimc77 » Wed May 04, 2016 10:41 pm

I'm so very sorry Shelda. Thoughts with you and your family tonight x

Fifi

Re: Feeling totally lost

Postby Fifi » Wed May 04, 2016 10:44 pm

So incredibly sorry Shelda. Your Mum was very brave and you loved her so much.

Thinking of you and your family in these hard times ahead.

Leila xx

sandraW
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Re: Feeling totally lost

Postby sandraW » Thu May 05, 2016 12:30 am

Shelda, sorry to hear you have lost your lovely mum tonight, how beautiful that you were all there with her, she would have felt so safe and loved. How you are feeling is perfectly natural, its all just like a dream that you hope you can wake up from, sending love and strength to you all sandrax xx

boa
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Re: Feeling totally lost

Postby boa » Thu May 05, 2016 7:24 am

What a beautiful picture of your mum and the family. I'm so sorry that you have had to say the final goodbye but it's wonderful to have so much love together. Catherine

jay
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Re: Feeling totally lost

Postby jay » Thu May 05, 2016 8:11 am

I am so sorry Shelda.
Thinking of you all.
love Jayne
xxx

PCUK Nurse Jeni
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Re: Feeling totally lost

Postby PCUK Nurse Jeni » Thu May 05, 2016 10:59 am

Dear Shelda,

So very sorry to hear your sad news. I know that you were anticipating this, but as everyone finds out, its still heartbreaking when it happens, no matter how you had expected it.

Its so nice to read your account of you all being there with your mum - it sounds so peaceful and such a precious time.

I would like to extend our sincere condolences to you and your family on this sad occasion. You have been a great support to others on here, and I am sure that you will find support going forward from your "cyber" friends.

Kind regards,
Jeni.

Pancreatic Cancer Specialist Nurse,
Support Team.

Proud Wife
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Re: Feeling totally lost

Postby Proud Wife » Thu May 05, 2016 2:30 pm

Oh Shel, I am so very very sorry to hear your sad news but relieved at the same time that you had no regrets. That is my biggest fear. The news probably hasn't sunk in yet and you are probably on auto pilot at present.

All that I can say is I am here for you if you want a cyber buddy, you only have to ask the moderator to pass on your contact details. If there is any way I can help you, then I'd love to as you've been such a help and support to me.

Take care of yourself and my sincere condolences to you and your family.

Thinking of you during this difficult time. xxx

Linda G
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Re: Feeling totally lost

Postby Linda G » Thu May 05, 2016 5:29 pm

Ah Shelda, I am so sorry to hear your sad news. Its such a difficult time. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Linda G

Dandygal76
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Re: Feeling totally lost

Postby Dandygal76 » Thu May 05, 2016 10:11 pm

My deepest sympathies to you and your family, please take care of yourselves during this saddest of times. x

sheena
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Re: Feeling totally lost

Postby sheena » Thu May 05, 2016 11:07 pm

So sorry my lovely another beautiful family destroyed by this awful disease think it of you today and always.xx

Sueoliver
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Re: Feeling totally lost

Postby Sueoliver » Sat May 07, 2016 8:33 am

I am so sorry Shelda your Mum sounded a lot like mine although younger. I know how you are feeling right now and I am thinking of you and sending you strength and love. Xxx

Didge
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Re: Feeling totally lost

Postby Didge » Sat May 07, 2016 2:25 pm

Shelda, heartfelt sympathy for your loss. Thinking of you as you cross the divide in this club. We are all here for you when you need us. Didge x

Proud Wife
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Re: Feeling totally lost

Postby Proud Wife » Sat May 07, 2016 4:08 pm

Thinking of you Shel.

Like the "cross the divide" description Didge. xx

shelda
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Re: Feeling totally lost

Postby shelda » Sun May 15, 2016 12:00 am

Thank you for your kind wishes, we buried mum on weds and I thought it may have taken me out of this limbo but I'm still in this weird daze, it just doesn't feel real, I've barely cried yet, even though I'm absolutely heartbroken!!! My dad and I came up with mums eulogy whilst sat with her when she returned home the night before her funeral. Her service was absolutely beautiful and my brave dad managed to keep it together reading the tribute, there was hardly a dry eye, and the church was absolutely packed, we couldn't believe all the people having to stand up at the back of church, mum would have been very humbled. I've been to visit the grave today, it's a lovely spot surrounded by fields, she always loved the little lambs in spring so we hope this makes her happy. I miss her so much already, it's 2 weeks since she spoke her last words and the last time she was awake. I'm still staying up at my dads I feel I can't leave him as much for me as him, I kind of feel I'm in this protected bubble whilst I'm with him I know I need to go home as my hubby keeps asking when I'll go back but I feel sick thinking about going back to normality!!
Proud wife how do we message privately I don't know how to add you hun??