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Re: Our Story

Postby jay » Tue Jan 12, 2016 10:58 pm

I am so sorry Catherine
Love Jayne

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Re: Our Story

Postby Sueoliver » Tue Jan 12, 2016 10:59 pm

I am so sorry Catherine thinking of you at this very sad time.
Love Sue x

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Re: Our Story

Postby Didge » Wed Jan 13, 2016 9:05 am

Catherine, so sorry to hear the news. Sending you lots of love xx

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Re: Our Story

Postby sandraW » Wed Jan 13, 2016 2:16 pm

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of Stephen, sending you love and strength for the next steps on this truly horrible journey take care sandrax xx

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Re: Our Story

Postby PCUK Nurse Rachel C » Wed Jan 13, 2016 2:56 pm

Dear Boa,

I am so sorry to hear this sad news.

On behalf of everyone at Pancreatic Cancer UK I would like to offer our heartfelt condolences. Thank you for sharing your and Stephens story.

Our thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time.

From all the Support Team
Pancreatic Cancer Nurse Specialist
Information and Support Team.

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Re: Our Story

Postby boa » Fri Jan 22, 2016 5:04 pm

This will be my last personal post but I'll pop in from time to time in case I can help.

It was Stephen's funeral today and my brother in law led it with three friends saying something about him. Our music was from a Gilbert and Sullivan opera which we both liked. Although we do not follow a relious faith Stephen's niece sang 'God moves in a mysterious way'. His sister played the organ. It was a very fitting celebration of a life cut too short.

I feel in a bit of a parallel universe but take heart from those of you who have continued to live life well after the loss of your loved one.

I send my love to you all.

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Re: Our Story

Postby sandraW » Fri Jan 22, 2016 5:44 pm

Catherine, it sounds a very special celebration of Stephens life , one that he would have loved, I remember feeling how much Trevor would have loved his send off and many friends and family said the same. its the last thing we can do for them.
I know Trevor would have wanted me to get on with my life, but its hard sometimes, friends and family rally round but then they get on with their lives, which is totally as it should be but it can be lonely especially in this miserable weather.
Take care and come back and see us, the more there are the more support we can give sandrax xx

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Re: Our Story

Postby Didge » Fri Jan 22, 2016 7:21 pm

Glad the funeral went well. There will be hard times ahead, but make sure you plan some nice things for yourself even if you don't feel like it. I always feel that the bad times make the good times feel even better. Tomorrow will be the 27th anniversary of my first husband's death from cancer at 37. Just one week later our second granddaughter is due. There is always happiness to be found among the sadness. Stay strong! X

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Re: Our Story

Postby allyc1 » Fri Jan 22, 2016 7:50 pm

So sorry about your loss, i lost my dad in Nov 15 so I know what your going through.
Stay strong
Alison xx

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Re: Our Story

Postby Proud Wife » Fri Jan 22, 2016 9:08 pm

Hello Catherine

I'm new on here and have only just read your story. I am so, so sorry for your loss and wish you all the possible strength for the future.

PW xx


Re: Our Story

Postby Fifi » Fri Jan 29, 2016 6:38 pm

Please the funeral went ok Catherine.

Thinking of you

Leila xx

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Re: Our Story

Postby Helliemo » Sun Feb 14, 2016 8:07 pm

Just read your story. I'm so so sorry.
I'm so grateful for your post. Xxxxx

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Re: Our Story

Postby boa » Tue Jul 12, 2016 10:04 am

Today it is six months since Stephen died. Sometimes it has been difficult but there have been good times too. At the end of May on the day after what was the 68th anniversary of his birth his boating pals took the boat out on to the Firth of Forth and scattered his ashes. His brother in law (who sits in the House of Lords and sometimes goes to the All Party Committee on PC) also went in the boat but his sister and I watched from the shore. As they moved to the place where they were going to anchor they met a RN Frigate so they dipped their flag in salute and the Frigate dipped theirs.That meant a lot to the boat party.
I have been thinking about leaving this forum and now the time is right. I wish those of you with cancer or supporting someone the best possible outcome and to those of you who have lost someone I hope that it gets easier as time goes on.
Thank you for your support over the last year.

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Re: Our Story

Postby Wife&Mum » Tue Jul 12, 2016 10:58 am

Dear Catherine
Thank you so much for sharing your story here and for your very supportive posts to others. You have had the most heartbreaking year and clearly you couldn't have done more for Stephen. Someone said on another forum that PC is like trying to holding back the tide with your hands. You had a tsunami to deal with.
You mention that there have been a few good times recently...may you have more and more each day.
If I don't 'see' you here again, I wish you the very best for the future.
Love, W&M xx

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Re: Our Story

Postby Dandygal76 » Tue Jul 12, 2016 11:49 am

Hi Catherine,

You have been of great support to members on here even through the difficult times you have had. I wish you much happiness in your future endeavours.