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Re: Bad news

Postby EmmaR » Fri Jul 31, 2015 3:05 pm

Oh Didge so sorry you have to walk the path that so many of us ladies that joined this forum have done before you ,but be assured without people like you many would not have known where to start with the awful fight we have had to put up against this cruel disease so please know how sad the forum family feel when another one leaves us .
Take Care
EmmaR x

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Re: Bad news

Postby sandraW » Fri Jul 31, 2015 5:58 pm


I have asked the support team to pass on my email address to you, I'll donate to your race for life, and please let me have your address.
You're right about the different "hard time" it is so very hard, I am going on holiday in a couple of weeks with my eldest son and family, another first to face, just can't summon up much enthusiasm to be honest, but then I hear T telling me to get on with it.
Just take your time and cry if you want too, being strong is good but so are tears, take care of yourself, love sandrax xx

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Re: Bad news

Postby Ant11 » Fri Jul 31, 2015 6:24 pm


Just wanted to send my prayers to you at this sad time. You have been absolutely amazing throughout your journey with Rob, sharing and supporting others in the same situation. Providing tips and so much useful information as Emma said, without this so many of us would not know where to begin with this cruel relentless disease. Thank you for all the kind words but now it is your time to deal with the loss of Rob, he will be beside you every step of the way guiding and giving you the strength you need. I know all the forum family will be with you too as we say goodbye to another fighter. Take care lots of love Annette xxx

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Re: Bad news

Postby Sueoliver » Fri Jul 31, 2015 6:26 pm

Dearest Didge,

I am so sorry to hear your news. I hate this disease it takes away so many wonderful people. Thankyou for all your kindness and support on this forum. Thinking of you at this sad time.

Take care of yourself,
Love Sue x

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Re: Bad news

Postby MSH » Fri Jul 31, 2015 7:26 pm

Sorry to learn of your sad news, my condolences.

I still miss cestrian too, he was always so positive.


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Re: Bad news

Postby LMD » Fri Jul 31, 2015 10:37 pm

So sorry for your loss xxx

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Re: Bad news

Postby kittycat » Sat Aug 01, 2015 4:41 am

So sorry to hear your sad news Didge, you've been such a support to everyone even though you've been going through a really difficult time yourself. Take care.


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Re: Bad news

Postby Didge » Sat Aug 01, 2015 9:21 am

Thank you Sandra, Nikki also asked for my email but I have not heard so I will chase the administrators and get in touch as soon as I am able. I am glad you are having a holiday. Last time I was in this position, 25 years ago, I forced myself to socialise and do new things, take holidays etc and found it essential to rebuild your life. You need to rebuild a bank of happy memories without the person you have lost, sad as it is that they are not sharing these new occasions. I hope you have a lovely time and hope to be able to be in contact soon! Thank you too everyone else for your lovely comments, it does make it easier to bear having the support of the forum 'family'. Xxx

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Re: Bad news

Postby nikkis » Sat Aug 01, 2015 10:03 am

Hi Didge,
I am not sure what has happened but they gave me your email address, and I have emailed you a couple of times, but you obviously haven't received them. I will message the administrators and ask them to send you mine and will email you again now, just in case it gets through!


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Re: Bad news

Postby nikkis » Sat Aug 01, 2015 11:24 am

I have just re read your post Didge, and you have summed up exactly how I am coping without me realising. The girls and I are off on holiday next weekend, we are having 3 nights in Dubai and then a week in Mauritius. I have booked up for us to spend New Year in Edinburgh. Plus I am spending lots of good days walking with my wonderful friends in training for our mammoth walk. I am back at work, and we have lots of laughs. I remember when I first realised that Paul was unlikely to have very long,after they found the tumour was cancerous, thinking that I would never want to do anything nice again, but as you say Didge you have to make new memories, however hard that is. Paul is rarely far from my thoughts, but the most important thing is to make him proud, by making the best of our lives.

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Re: Bad news

Postby Cathy » Sat Aug 01, 2015 6:09 pm

Hi Didge,

I heard your sad news through London Panpals so you know I have already been in touch.

This is my first time on here since so just wanted to add my condolences again to everyone else's. It seems so unfair that you had such a short time with Rob before he was diagnosed but you were an absolute star taking on his diagnosis so early on. I'm sure many wouldn't. And I am sure Rob must have taken so much strength and comfort from your love to him.

We will meet when you are good and ready.

Take care.

Cathy xxx

And Mark - I have such fond memories of Cestrian too


Re: Bad news

Postby Fifi » Sat Aug 01, 2015 6:23 pm


I am so very very sorry to read Rob has passed away.

Such a short time you had together, but you were his strength. I am so very sorry that you are going through this a second time, I really really am. Once is more than enough for anyone.

Like others have said, I really hope you have some good support, and lots of people that can put their arms around you.

Leila xxx

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Re: Bad news

Postby sheena » Sat Aug 01, 2015 11:00 pm

So sorry didge Ty for all your help without this forum I would be lost thinking of you x

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Re: Bad news

Postby Didge » Sun Aug 02, 2015 9:23 am

Thank you everyone x

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Re: Bad news

Postby knutsford4 » Sun Aug 02, 2015 9:46 am

Omg Didge
I am so sorry to hear your news, you have been a tower of strength to me here, I have no words
Just know you are in my thoughts and prayers, x