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brodders
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Re: Need some advice if possible !

Postby brodders » Thu Oct 30, 2014 7:59 pm

Certainly didn't upset me honey - I hope I haven't upset you by being too honest. I didn't write anything in this forum until after my mum died. I have found it a massive help realising I am not the only one going through it. Lots of love Cate xxx

Dcoleman
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Re: Need some advice if possible !

Postby Dcoleman » Thu Oct 30, 2014 8:52 pm

No not at all.you do feel like you are the only the going through it til you go on this forum. So glad I found this site. X

Dcoleman
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Re: Need some advice if possible !

Postby Dcoleman » Sat Nov 01, 2014 5:21 pm

So today is the start of pancreatic cancer awareness month and the irony is right there. My heart was broken today when at 1pm my dear lovely pops fell asleep. It was the most peaceful time and we were all with him right to the end. We cared for him at home which was the toughest thing I have ever had to but it was his wishes not to go in a hospice and we wanted to fulfill his wishes and I hope we did him proud. Love you forever dad X x

brodders
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Re: Need some advice if possible !

Postby brodders » Sat Nov 01, 2014 5:38 pm

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rsk1974
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Re: Need some advice if possible !

Postby rsk1974 » Sat Nov 01, 2014 5:51 pm

Big hugs to you, I'm glad you where there and it was peaceful.

sandraW
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Re: Need some advice if possible !

Postby sandraW » Sat Nov 01, 2014 6:11 pm

Sending cyber (((hugs))) sincere condolences to you and all the family. I am sure you did "do him proud" and its lovely that he could end his life at home, with you all around him, take care love sandrax

wackywacky
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Re: Need some advice if possible !

Postby wackywacky » Sat Nov 01, 2014 8:39 pm

So sorry x

Bowie
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Re: Need some advice if possible !

Postby Bowie » Sat Nov 01, 2014 8:59 pm

I'm so sorry your dad has gone. You and your family must have been so strong to support him at home, I'm sure it wasn't easy and you made the end as nice and peaceful as possible for him. Thinking of you and your family. Fiona X

jules 2015
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Re: Need some advice if possible !

Postby jules 2015 » Sat Nov 01, 2014 11:06 pm

Thinking about you, I lost my Dad to pc on 1st Nov 2013. sending you strength for the days and weeks ahead, take each day as it comes and be kind to yourself. Try to take some comfort that you were with your dad at the end and that he was with you all
Jules x

Sueoliver
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Re: Need some advice if possible !

Postby Sueoliver » Sat Nov 01, 2014 11:16 pm

So sorry there are no words. Stay strong. Sue xxx

jay
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Re: Need some advice if possible !

Postby jay » Sun Nov 02, 2014 7:17 am

I am so sorry,
love Jayne
x

Didge
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Re: Need some advice if possible !

Postby Didge » Sun Nov 02, 2014 2:40 pm

Sorry to hear the news but glad that it was peaceful. Will be thinking of you in the times ahead. x

Slewis7313
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Re: Need some advice if possible !

Postby Slewis7313 » Sun Nov 02, 2014 3:22 pm

Really sorry to hear of your sad loss. You obviously carried out your Dad's wishes right until the end. Thinking about you and your family at this difficult time. Please take care.

Steve
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Dcoleman
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Re: my heart is broken my dad has gone x

Postby Dcoleman » Sun Nov 02, 2014 5:22 pm

Thank you to everyone that has read my up dates. It has been a massive help to read your supportive messages especially as we are all strangers brought together by this terrible illness. dad's decline started yesterday morning. He hadn't eaten for over a month and hadn't drunk for 3 days. By the morning he was unconscious and had Involuntary breathing which was really fast. I called my sister and we sat with him from 6am. The nurses came in to change the morphine driver at 12.30. By then his wrists were cold. The nurse said he hadn't got long. She said they would return to take the driver out. Mum offered her a cup of tea as his breathing became really quiet and shallow. Then very very slowly with no noise or trauma at all and with us all around him holding his hands and talking to him he just drifted off. The nurse stayed with us as he passed away and it was beautiful that there absolutely no pain. The only pain we had was that we waited 5 hours for a doctor to come before we could call the under takers. But we all had time to say our good byes. The most devastating thing was when they came to take him away and then that left an empty bed. We are still in a routine of checking for him and I'm sure it will be a few days before it sinks in that he is gone from us X X

janem
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Re: my heart is broken my dad has gone x

Postby janem » Sun Nov 02, 2014 6:32 pm

I'm so sorry for you, even when you feel you are prepared it is still hard to take in. It's been 8 months since I lost my Dad to this disease and 10 months since I lost my mum because of the stress of my dad's pc. Yet still I think I'll just phone them or pop in then realise.
It seems so inadequate what I have said but I didn't want to r&r. ((hugs))