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Re: Our hero lost the battle

Postby belgrade » Fri Oct 18, 2013 11:10 am

Well said Mike! Thanks for the kind words and encouragement.
Hilary x

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Re: Our hero lost the battle

Postby Cathy » Fri Oct 18, 2013 11:36 am


I love you too!!!!!!


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Re: Our hero lost the battle

Postby LindaH » Fri Oct 18, 2013 11:48 am

I cannot understand how I missed reading your post Karen. It's going to be hard not hearing about Bob and what he was doing on any particular day, which nearly always made me laugh.

I can only ditto what everyone else has written with good wishes to you and your family.

I know on my dark days, I start thinking about how my family will be on the day of my funeral. I have rehearsed what I'm going to say (I wanted to make a DVD) but I can never finish what I'm going to say as it ends with a speech to my beautiful daughter and it's then I break down. Of course as is always said, it's the ones you leave behind who will continue to cry for their loss, but as Mike says you'll have good days and one or two bad ones, but always you will cherish the time you and Bob spent together and then you can smile to your hearts content.

Stay Strong

Linda x

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Re: Our hero lost the battle

Postby cestrian » Fri Oct 18, 2013 12:10 pm

Thank you all for your kind messages. Always a little diffident about posting on here when I'm experiencing so few problems. I'm very happy if you find my ramblings helpful.

Love and Peace


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Re: Our hero lost the battle

Postby J_T » Fri Oct 18, 2013 1:01 pm

Mike, I would urge to post as often as you like!

You are so good with words and your posts are so uplifting!

I'm DELIGHTED that you are so well, long may it continue.

Linda, my heart goes out to you x
Karen, Hilary, hope you are both doing okay. Funeral for us on Monday :(

Love to you all.

Julia x

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Re: Our hero lost the battle

Postby Bee » Fri Oct 18, 2013 6:46 pm


What lovely words, we plod on!

Stay well!

Bee xx

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Re: Our hero lost the battle

Postby laura » Fri Oct 18, 2013 11:50 pm

hello karen, only just logged on have been away for a while, sorry message a bit late, so sad to read your post honey, my condolences and best wishes to you all, love laura xx

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Re: Our hero lost the battle

Postby Slewis7313 » Sat Oct 19, 2013 5:27 am

Hi Karen, I too have been away and struggled to get on line. I am so glad the funeral went off well and find it so difficult to grasp that someone could be taken so young. I am obviously in a different place as a sufferer and sometimes struggle to put into words the pain I feel for my close family who have watched me through the difficult times and sometimes (most of the time) felt so helpless. I think however that Mike has already stated how I feel in a Most articulate manner.

I am obviously now amazingly lucky to have a real shot at beating this, but will still be thinking about you coming to terms with a life without Bob (physically) by your side, though I am sure he will always be with you in many ways and cherished memories.

Look after yourself and please stay in touch.


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Re: Our hero lost the battle

Postby Jwilson » Sat Oct 19, 2013 1:29 pm

Karen. It was so lovely to read about Bobs party, for that is what it was. It sounds as though it went perfectly and I'm sure he would have had a ball. Once again you made me laugh. Here I am silently blubbering and I get to the bit where the pub ran out of drink!!! Priceless!
I think it was very generous of you to share your day with the forum family.
No more watching Corrie!
June x

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Re: Our hero lost the battle

Postby karen17 » Sun Oct 20, 2013 5:59 pm

Thank you everybody again for the kind words. Steve and Mike I am so pleased you are both doing well and like everyone else enjoy reading your posts.
Linda the thought of your dvd brought a lump to my throat but I think it is important for you to be able to tell your family your wishes. I only hope that Bob was looking down on us because I found it very difficult to discuss his wishes with him and they tended to come sporadically. I remember travelling to chemo one day and candle in the wind came on. I knew what he was going to say before he opened his mouth and when he said it I told him it was just too emotional and no one would cope. Likewise when he wanted the Killers I said it was inappropriate! I just couldn't handle the thought but he knew I had taken note. He wanted his photo in a big frame placed on the coffin which we did. I feel at peace that I did fulfil his wishes.
Julia and Kate I have been thinking about you both so much and my thoughts will certainly be with you tomorrow. I just kept thinking of it as a celebration of Bob's life which helped me.
Karen xxx

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Re: Our hero lost the battle

Postby Cathy » Sun Oct 20, 2013 7:00 pm

Hi Karen

Here here with everything you have said.

I think you handled everything perfectly. So brave. And I think that will be of help to Julia and Kate - so soon afterwards! And now Carole. :(

Julia and Kate, as you know it goes without saying, we'll all be thinking of you all tomorrow