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root
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Only 1 week left with my dad

Postby root » Thu Oct 02, 2014 9:52 pm

So yesterday I got the call I had been dreading from my mum asking me to come down as she felt dad was close to the end. He has gone downhill quite suddenly. Can't get out of bed, sleeping lots, vomiting black bile, very little urine output. Nurse from hospice came to assess him and says he has just a few days left with us. I am so sad but just want him to be at peace. Ive been dreading this moment for a year and I can't believe am about to loose my very dear Pops.

Fifi

Re: Only 1 week left with my dad

Postby Fifi » Thu Oct 02, 2014 10:02 pm

So incredibly sorry. I won't pretend to imagine how you are feeling. Be pleased you are with him, tell him you love him, I think that is all you can do. It will give your dad the comfort, and I believe it will give you peace in times to come.

Thinking of you and your dad.

Leila xx

root
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Re: Only 1 week left with my dad

Postby root » Fri Oct 03, 2014 6:37 pm

Thank you Leila. Today his pulse is very weak and he is asleep all of the time. Doesn't seem to be in pain. His district nurse said she would be Suprised if he made it through the weekend.

rsk1974
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Re: Only 1 week left with my dad

Postby rsk1974 » Fri Oct 03, 2014 6:49 pm

So sorry, I feel your pain, hope it's peaceful and painted.x

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Re: Only 1 week left with my dad

Postby sandraW » Fri Oct 03, 2014 7:04 pm

Sorry you are going through this, at least he is not in pain, thinking of you all, take care sandrax

root
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Re: Only 1 week left with my dad

Postby root » Fri Oct 03, 2014 8:08 pm

Thank you. The lack of pain so far is a blessing for us all. The only distressing thing is fecal vomiting. But that seems to be settling with medication.

Dcoleman
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Re: Only 1 week left with my dad

Postby Dcoleman » Fri Oct 03, 2014 9:19 pm

I can actually feel your pain. I too have only 1 maybe 2 left with my dad and it is truly heart breaking. Dad has had very similar symptoms. He is having trouble with his bowels and they are black yet he hasn't eaten for days. Is this one of the signs? Dad starts intravenous medication on Monday but caring at home is very exhausting but dad wanted to remain at home and we will fulfill his wishes.dad is also pain free and like other people have said that is certainly a Lessing. My thoughts are with you and your family at this devastating time x

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Re: Only 1 week left with my dad

Postby EmmaR » Fri Oct 03, 2014 11:06 pm

Oh dear so so sorry just know the forum family are thinking of you a lot of us have been there, some of you are still waiting ... X

root
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Re: Only 1 week left with my dad

Postby root » Sat Oct 04, 2014 7:46 am

Thanks for all your kind thoughts. This forum has been excellent both in terms of support from the nurses who are awesome and from so many people willing to share their stories.

D Coleman - symptoms are so different but yes, dad has struggled with his bowels and not been eating for a while. My advise is to keep an eye on his urine output.

Dad had a very stable night and even managed some water. But he just doesn't look like my Pops anymore. His wrinkles have smoothed out! And he is just so so thin. He has mercifully stopped vomiting.

brodders
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Re: Only 1 week left with my dad

Postby brodders » Sat Oct 04, 2014 8:20 am

I know exactly how you are feeling- take care xxxx

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Re: Only 1 week left with my dad

Postby Sueoliver » Sat Oct 04, 2014 11:36 am

Tears in my eyes...I'm so sorry xxx

rsk1974
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Re: Only 1 week left with my dad

Postby rsk1974 » Sat Oct 04, 2014 1:50 pm

Glad your dad had a peaceful night and the vomiting has stopped, in my dad's last 2 weeks they never controlled the vomiting so never had a peaceful night.try and rest as well.x

Janiebobs
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Re: Only 1 week left with my dad

Postby Janiebobs » Sat Oct 04, 2014 9:57 pm

You are all in my thoughts
Take care of yourself too
Jane

root
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Re: Only 1 week left with my dad

Postby root » Sun Oct 05, 2014 1:50 pm

My wonderful, lovely Dad passed away peacefully this morning surrounded by his family. Glad his suffering is over but I will miss him dearly.

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Re: Only 1 week left with my dad

Postby wackywacky » Sun Oct 05, 2014 1:56 pm

So sorry, and like you say his suffering is over, thinking of you and your family x