My mum

[Jacqueline1982]

Hi everyone, I am new to this forum. I hope someone can help me. My mum was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in August and chemo hasn't worked. The tumor is inoperable and she has been going downhill. A few days ago she developed severe swelling on her feet and today has woken up with swelling on her hands and face and no feeling in her hands, she also has low blood pressure. My mum didn't tell us when she was diagnosed that apparently you only have months to live once diagnosed with this type of cancer, mainly to keep us from worrying as I lost my dad in October 07 to cancer. I am extremely worried and I would like to hear from anyone who has been in this situation. I didn't realise how short a time my dad had left and wish I had said things to him. I would like to get this chance with my mum. My mum's mum and my grandmother died last month and its been such an awful time for the family. Is this near the end for my mum and do you truly never know?

Please help x

[Joyce]

Hi Jacqueline

I am so sorry to hear your news. It is a difficult time. My husband ages 52 has inoperable pancreatic cancer and is on his second chemo. This came out of the blue also. You have been through a major upheavel and upset and unfortunatley there is not a lot we can do about it when it gets to this stage. My advice is to do as much as you can with your mum and enjoy each other. How old is she and do you other family members around who you can talk to. I would also see your doctor for advice or better still phone Mcmillan and get advice. I hope this is of help but there are others out there in the same position so you are not alone. I will look at this post if you want to talk to me.

Love Joyce

PS I am also relatively new to this forum as well so feeling my way around.

[Jacqueline1982]

Hi Joyce

I am sorry to hear about your husband's illness, its just such an awful time isn't it. I can't understand how it just appears and before they know it its too late to try and cure or operate, this world is a cruel and unfair place sometimes. My mum will be 49 in May. My mum lives with my brother and her partner and his daughter so she has support at home, I am also over every day or every second day.

Jacqueline