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PCUK Nurse Jeni
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Re: my lovely dad

Postby PCUK Nurse Jeni » Thu Sep 05, 2013 1:27 pm

Hi Petra,

That is a fantastic poem. Really beautiful - well done for your courage.

Jeni and Dianne.

petra
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Re: my lovely dad

Postby petra » Fri Sep 06, 2013 1:03 am

Thanks Jeni and Dianne, I worked hard on it but there were so many nice things to say about my dad I certainly wasn't stuck for ideas!

KATB, I know exactly how you feel. I think I started grieving for dad as soon as they told us his only option was palliative chemo, one year ago yesterday! how things can change. I certainly did a lot of (private) crying during that year, watching my dad suffer and also know that he wouldn't get much better and seeing how hard he tried and fought nearly tore me apart, the only thing you can try and do is be there for your dad and look after him as best you can. Is your dad having chemo? much love Petra xxxxxxxxxxxxx

KATB
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Re: my lovely dad

Postby KATB » Fri Sep 06, 2013 9:26 am

Hi Petra,

I've cried a river this year - it is the toughest and most heart-breaking situation I've ever had to deal with. Nobody knows how hideous this is until they go through it. Dad is not on any chemo at the moment, he is just too unwell :cry:
We are just trying everything to build his strength up but he has no appetite really and just feels weak :cry:

K
x

petra
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Re: my lovely dad

Postby petra » Fri Sep 06, 2013 9:34 am

I know what that's like, often dad would be too poorly for treatment although he really wanted it, I too have had the most horrific year and this morning I've got in from work and I feel so lost! No dad to look after and babble on to, miss him so much! I spent too long searching for treatment and wish now that I'd spent every second with him, what I wouldn't do to see him just once more! Your dad will be safe in the knowledge that you will always be there so take some comfort from that and spend every second you can with him! Xxxxxx

KATB
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Re: my lovely dad

Postby KATB » Fri Sep 06, 2013 9:48 am

Hi Petra,

I'm trying to spend as much time with him as I can but it's difficult - he lives an hour away from me and I have 3 children (age 9-12) and one of them has his secondary school entrance exams in the next few weeks. So I'm really trying to keep all the plates spinning - working with him, doing my own job (I work freelance), visiting mum and dad...
It's so difficult as I have to arrange childcare for the boys if I'm not here to pick up from school and of course my not being here also impacts on them AND they are always asking after Grandad - how is he, can they go and visit him etc. Things are so tough right now but I'm just taking each day as it comes. That's all we can do isn't it?

xxx

petra
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Re: my lovely dad

Postby petra » Fri Sep 06, 2013 10:25 am

Oh god, so much on your plate I know it's a nightmare trying to do everything, your dads not alone though he's got your mum!! Take one day at a time or else you'll go mad, you sound like your doing so well xxxxxx

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Re: my lovely dad

Postby KATB » Fri Sep 06, 2013 11:45 am

Thanks Petra x

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Re: my lovely dad

Postby Cathy » Fri Sep 06, 2013 12:22 pm

Hi Kate

We're all thinking of you, your Mum and your Dad and hoping for some positive news very soon on your thread. I keep looking out for it every time I'm on here.

Loads of love

Cathy xxx

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Re: my lovely dad

Postby KATB » Fri Sep 06, 2013 1:17 pm

Thanks so much Cathy. There's not a lot of positive news right now. Dad is stable but he's not well and we don't really know where we are going next with this hideous disease.

K
x

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Re: my lovely dad

Postby Cathy » Fri Sep 06, 2013 2:04 pm

Hi Kate

I'm glad he is stable but you must all be exhausted.

I hope you all manage to have a restful weekend and a turn for the best for your Dad. As I said, am thinking of you all and will be looking out for an update when you or your Mum have time. Hoping very hard that it will be a positive one.


xxx

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Re: my lovely dad

Postby petra » Sun Sep 08, 2013 2:59 pm

Hope your dad is feeling better KATB have been thinking of you xxxxx

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Re: my lovely dad

Postby Bee » Sun Sep 08, 2013 7:06 pm

Hi,
Ditto to above, thinking of you all and keeping everything crossed for some positive news
Bee xx

petra
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Re: my lovely dad

Postby petra » Fri Sep 13, 2013 5:17 pm

Hope you are ok KATB how's dad?? I miss my dad so much at the moment it's four weeks today since he went, I can only do the basics like work walking the dog and housework, other than that I can't seem to get much done! My friends get me put all the time but then I go home and think about dad! At least I'm working I suppose
Xxxxx

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Re: my lovely dad

Postby petra » Fri Sep 13, 2013 5:18 pm

Hope you are ok KATB how's dad?? I miss my dad so much at the moment it's four weeks today since he went, I can only do the basics like work walking the dog and housework, other than that I can't seem to get much done! My friends get me put all the time but then I go home and think about dad! At least I'm working I suppose
Xxxxx

Cathy
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Re: my lovely dad

Postby Cathy » Fri Sep 13, 2013 5:32 pm

Hi Petra

Four weeks is no time at all is it? You say you haven't done much but you seem to be doing a lot, working, walking the dog AND housework - superwoman!

Just to let you know, in case you didn't, that KATBs Dad is Ray and her Mum, Julia has just posted an update on another thread here of how he is getting on>> http://forum.pancreaticcancer.org.uk/vi ... =150#p9486

.. just in case you hadn't spotted it.

Cathy xx