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Postby Chrisf » Sun Sep 07, 2014 7:04 pm

Pete, my wonderful husband and father to our 5 amazing children died two weeks ago today on 24th August. He was diagnosed on 12th June, just over 10 weeks earlier. He was 54. He finally succumbed to an infection which was resistant to most antibiotics and by the time he was clear of infection, the cancer had taken hold. He spent the last two weeks in a local hospice and received such amazing care. They are continuing to support me too.

At the moment it feels too unreal to be true. I feel as though I'm going through the motions of getting on with life.

It's taken me a while to write this. I'll try and write more another time.


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Postby brodders » Sun Sep 07, 2014 7:10 pm

So sorry to hear this. Take care xxxx

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Postby wackywacky » Sun Sep 07, 2014 7:15 pm

So sorry , take care x

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Postby nikkis » Sun Sep 07, 2014 7:21 pm

I am so sorry to hear that you have lost your husband, my heart goes out to you and your children,
Thinking of you,

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Postby Didge » Sun Sep 07, 2014 7:27 pm

So sorry to hear your sad news. Please continue to come here for support when you are ready x

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Postby J_T » Sun Sep 07, 2014 7:59 pm

So very sorry to hear your sad news. Nice to hear your husband got such good care.

Look after yourself

Julia x

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Postby sandraW » Sun Sep 07, 2014 8:42 pm

Christine, so so sorry to hear you have lost your beloved husband Pete, sending condolences to you and all the family, please take care of yourself sandrax

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Postby Cathy » Sun Sep 07, 2014 8:48 pm

I'm so sorry to hear this Christine.

I hope you are getting a lot of support at this awful time and the emotions you are feeling are very familiar to a number of us.

If this is of any help, please remember you are not alone. My own partner also had an infection but in the end, whether it was the cancer or the infection it was all too much. He also died in a hospice and I took comfort in knowing that he died being given the highest possible care.

Take care

Cathy xx

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Postby EmmaR » Sun Sep 07, 2014 10:37 pm

Oh so sad another one gone to young but be sure many of us on this forum really do know what you are going through
Look after yourself .

EmmaR x

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Postby Slewis7313 » Mon Sep 08, 2014 7:18 am

So sorry to hear of your sad loss Christine. 54 is just so young, but this thing has no respect for age (or anything else for that matter). You and your family are in all our thoughts.

Take care.


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Postby yorkypaul » Mon Sep 08, 2014 9:54 am

I am so sad to read of the loss of your dear husband. I was where you are now just 19 months ago. It has ben (and still is) a long hard path to tread. This weekend was particularly difficult as it would have been my lovely wife's birthday on Saturday. I chose to spend the evening quietly alone, lit a candle and cooked a meal to celebrate her birthday - something that I could not have done last September. The point of me sharing this with you is to give you hope that life will become ever so slightly easier than the incredible torment that you are feeling just now. Yes, I still get awful days. and yes, I still wonder how I will cope without her ...but somehow I just do. Help and support of family and close friends has been invaluable. It never goes away, but, eventually, I found that I was able to function on a day to day basis.
Be assured that many people will read your posts and know just how you are feeling. Take care of yourself and accept any help that you are offered if you want to. There will probably be times when you just want to be alone though. People will, for the most part, understand. If they don't, then simply tell them so.
My thoughts and best wishes are with you.

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Postby belgrade » Mon Sep 08, 2014 5:40 pm

So sorry to hear of your loss Christine. My husband developed an infection too that proved just too much for him to fight. He died a year ago this Wednesday. There will be very tough days ahead, but slowly that awful pain you must be feeling now, does ease. I have learned to live alone this last year, never easy, but I have a choice of how I will build my future. Sadly, our husbands never had a choice because of this awful disease.
My heart goes out to you and your children.
Take care,

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Postby Birchen » Mon Sep 08, 2014 9:25 pm

So very sorry Christine that you have lost your husband. I to lost my husband and I count myself very lucky that he also passed away in our local hospice. They will continue to support both you and your children, if you wish, as much as they possibly can. There are really no words that can get you through this but I personally find that I try to focus on great times we had and how lucky I was to have so many years with him. Love to you and your children Lyn x

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Re: Heartbroken

Postby jay » Mon Sep 08, 2014 9:28 pm

so so sorry to hear of your loss, sending you a massive cyper hug,
love Jayne

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Re: Heartbroken

Postby Bee » Mon Sep 08, 2014 10:48 pm

So sorry to hear another loved one has been taken by this awful disease.
I can only echo what others have said, I lost my husband in December, only 43, leaving me and my two children bereft and know just how you will be feeling. I functioned on autopilot, and gradually learnt to get through the days. My journey continues and so will yours but you are not alone, use all support from every angle and take it one step at a time.

Bee xx