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by Linda G
Sun Apr 17, 2016 6:43 pm
Forum: Advanced pancreatic cancer
Topic: Totally in awe of my wonderful Husband!
Replies: 494
Views: 185056

Re: Totally in awe of my wonderful Husband!

The Nystan worked very quickly for Stewart, a couple of days max, he quite liked the taste as well. Hope you are taking care of yourself too.
xxx
by Linda G
Sun Apr 17, 2016 6:26 pm
Forum: Coping with loss/ Memorial
Topic: Finding it so hard to recall better times
Replies: 93
Views: 80729

Re: Finding it so hard to recall better times

Hi Leila, it also sounds lovely what you have a had done with your Dad's. It's a comfort to have something near you isn't it? I will be thinking of you on Thursday.
Take care love and stay strong. You are extremely helpful to lots of people using the site and we need your strength.
xxxx
Linda
by Linda G
Sun Apr 17, 2016 6:19 pm
Forum: Coping with loss/ Memorial
Topic: Finding it so hard to recall better times
Replies: 93
Views: 80729

Re: Finding it so hard to recall better times

Hi PW, Still struggling with my emotions but a little better than before I think. It was ok filling the little keepsake urns, I felt like I was doing something special for Stewart and his son and daughter. I have my little urn on my bedside table with a photograph. It brings me comfort. I just found...
by Linda G
Thu Apr 14, 2016 9:06 pm
Forum: Coping with loss/ Memorial
Topic: Poems
Replies: 14
Views: 15154

Re: Poems

Thanks PW and SandraW, at it again now reading Sue's poem, industrial sized loo rolls required I think! Sue, it is wonderful. I have seen separate verses before, used as part of obituaries in the local press but I have never seen the complete work. Very stirring and emotional. It's strange how poetr...
by Linda G
Thu Apr 14, 2016 4:28 pm
Forum: Coping with loss/ Memorial
Topic: Poems
Replies: 14
Views: 15154

Re: Poems

oops - Wasn't quite finished - Jeni, it took me three days to write as I wanted it to be personal to us (and I cried for England - just as I am reading these now).
Annette, the two poems you have posted are absolutely beautiful. Look forward to more!
Thank you
Linda G
xxxx
by Linda G
Thu Apr 14, 2016 4:24 pm
Forum: Coping with loss/ Memorial
Topic: Poems
Replies: 14
Views: 15154

Re: Poems

PW, this was such a good idea of yours to start a "poem" thread.
Jeni, thanks for the comments, It took me about 3 days to write it as
by Linda G
Thu Apr 14, 2016 3:57 pm
Forum: Family, friends and carers
Topic: Feeling totally lost
Replies: 105
Views: 42107

Re: Feeling totally lost

Hi Shelda, this is such a difficult time for you all. I agree with Catherine that the only way is one day at a time. Try not to think too far ahead and enjoy as much time with your mum as you can. My husband also expressed fear and anxiety and our MacMillan nurse spent some time alone with him enabl...
by Linda G
Thu Apr 14, 2016 3:38 pm
Forum: Family, friends and carers
Topic: frustrated
Replies: 361
Views: 108221

Re: frustrated

Dear Sheena, I am so so sorry to hear your sad news. It's such a difficult time for you and your family. Wishing you strength and love.
xxxxx
Linda G
by Linda G
Thu Apr 14, 2016 3:31 pm
Forum: Coping with loss/ Memorial
Topic: Poems
Replies: 14
Views: 15154

Re: Poems

This is a poem I wrote to begin my husband's memorial book, My Darling Stewart Everything seems so bleak right now without you by my side. The past eight months were so very hard, remember how we cried? You tried so hard to stay with me but it wasn't meant to be. Now I'm left without you and the fut...
by Linda G
Tue Apr 12, 2016 10:43 pm
Forum: Coping with loss/ Memorial
Topic: Finding it so hard to recall better times
Replies: 93
Views: 80729

Re: Finding it so hard to recall better times

Hi Sue, Yes, I liked the poem too. It makes more sense that the grief is absorbed and accepted and endured, not something you can complete and move on. I was very surprised to see Stewart in my dream. I had heard/read that it takes a long time to dream about a lost loved one and its only 7 weeks for...
by Linda G
Tue Apr 12, 2016 4:19 pm
Forum: Coping with loss/ Memorial
Topic: Finding it so hard to recall better times
Replies: 93
Views: 80729

Re: Finding it so hard to recall better times

Thanks Didge, did your dream bring you some comfort? I do talk to him all the time. In my head (when necessary) and out loud at home. I always talked to myself anyway so its nothing new. I don't really feel that he is no longer here! not sure if that's because it hasn't quite sunk in yet or if I wil...
by Linda G
Tue Apr 12, 2016 4:05 pm
Forum: Family, friends and carers
Topic: frustrated
Replies: 361
Views: 108221

Re: frustrated

Hi Sheena, my thoughts are with you both at this time. My husband Stewart was in the hospice for the last 3 weeks of his life. He went to sleep with the morphine for 12 days before he let go. We all wondered how or why he was holding on! I came to the conclusion it would be when he was ready and not...
by Linda G
Mon Apr 11, 2016 9:20 pm
Forum: Coping with loss/ Memorial
Topic: Finding it so hard to recall better times
Replies: 93
Views: 80729

Re: Finding it so hard to recall better times

Hi All, I have heard PW's poem before but not Jenni's. It certainly makes one think about the grieving process. I had a terrible evening yesterday and cried for about five hours non stop. It was so hard to pull myself together. But when I went to sleep I seen Stewart in a dream. I don't recall what ...
by Linda G
Sun Apr 10, 2016 12:40 pm
Forum: Coping with loss/ Memorial
Topic: Finding it so hard to recall better times
Replies: 93
Views: 80729

Re: Finding it so hard to recall better times

Hello Sue, nice of you to post. Goodness, 19 months is a long time! I hope you managed some better times during that journey. Being an only child must have made it so much harder (if that's possible). Stewart and I spent 24/7 together before he was ill, we didn't really need or want anyone else in o...
by Linda G
Sun Apr 10, 2016 12:19 pm
Forum: Coping with loss/ Memorial
Topic: Finding it so hard to recall better times
Replies: 93
Views: 80729

Re: Finding it so hard to recall better times

Hello PW, I am going through the motions of living day to day but I struggle to do more than that. I find I want to be on my own mostly. I know that's probably not healthy but I feel stressed and anxious if there is more than one person present. I will find a way eventually I suppose. I think about ...

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