Hi all,
This is my second xmas without my lovley husband,I have to say harder than the first.
The first year I didn't allow myself to think too much bcause it was too painful,this year I went away for a few days, escaping it again,maybe one day i'll have to face it head on.
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- Thu Dec 27, 2012 12:31 pm
- Forum: Coping with loss/ Memorial
- Topic: this time of year...
- Replies: 6
- Views: 19073
- Mon Oct 29, 2012 6:24 pm
- Forum: Advanced pancreatic cancer
- Topic: Recently diagnosed!
- Replies: 33
- Views: 22458
Re: Recently diagnosed!
Hi Sue, I haven't posted on this site for a while but still follow peoples stories,your post moved me, as it reminded me a little, of my own experience. The bombshell of the diagnosis and prognosis just turns your world upsidedown. My advice would be not to focus too much on how much time you may ha...
- Wed Aug 22, 2012 2:55 pm
- Forum: Coping with loss/ Memorial
- Topic: Welcome to this new forum on coping with loss
- Replies: 31
- Views: 52565
Re: Welcome to this new forum on coping with loss
Hi Sharrie, Again, a similar story. We saw a district nurse in the morning who said she would "flag up"when things got worse. Later that day my husband collapsed and died, alone, while I was at the shops. I remember spending days analysing coversations with health proffessionals, and tormenting myse...
- Mon Aug 20, 2012 12:14 pm
- Forum: Coping with loss/ Memorial
- Topic: Welcome to this new forum on coping with loss
- Replies: 31
- Views: 52565
Re: Welcome to this new forum on coping with loss
Hi Sharrie, First of all,welcome. There are many of us in this exclusive club that no-one wants to be in, but it can be a huge comfort, if only to know we are not alone. The tears, tiredness, and the dread of each day does ease, I think, by doing little things that bring us comfort, like lighting a ...
- Thu Jun 28, 2012 11:42 am
- Forum: Advanced pancreatic cancer
- Topic: Stage 4 pc 3-6months to live
- Replies: 28
- Views: 22723
Re: Stage 4 pc 3-6months to live
Hi Genie, Like you I tried to think about what to expect but,it's very difficult to predict the end. Even the district nurse that came in on the day he died said she would (flag up) if she felt things were getting worse. To this day without a post mortem, we don't know if it was due to the artery ru...
- Thu May 03, 2012 10:09 pm
- Forum: Family, friends and carers
- Topic: Dads Scan
- Replies: 10
- Views: 6504
Re: Dads Scan
Hi Rachel,
I'm sure everywhere is different,but we always had an appointment with the oncologist approx a month after a scan.
Good luck with the results.
I'm sure everywhere is different,but we always had an appointment with the oncologist approx a month after a scan.
Good luck with the results.
- Fri Apr 20, 2012 2:44 pm
- Forum: Family, friends and carers
- Topic: Really confused
- Replies: 37
- Views: 22355
Re: Really confused
Hello Barbara, Just read your post and it took me back to the same emotional rollercoaster. I lost my husband (50)nine months ago,a once fit and healty man.The diagnosis alone sends your head spinning, not having faced this before it's difficult to know what questions to ask,or what you're likely to...
- Mon Apr 09, 2012 6:49 pm
- Forum: Advanced pancreatic cancer
- Topic: Ted 29.8.46 - 9.4.12
- Replies: 21
- Views: 14436
Re: Ted 29.8.46 - 9.4.12
Nicki
I'm so so sorry, I'm almost lost for words.
I hope you take comfort in the fact that his passing was peaceful and that you were with him.
Your posts frequently gave us all hope.
'Although it's difficult to see beyond the sorrow,
may looking back in memory help comfort you tomorrow'
I'm so so sorry, I'm almost lost for words.
I hope you take comfort in the fact that his passing was peaceful and that you were with him.
Your posts frequently gave us all hope.
'Although it's difficult to see beyond the sorrow,
may looking back in memory help comfort you tomorrow'
- Fri Mar 30, 2012 9:17 am
- Forum: Advanced pancreatic cancer
- Topic: my mum
- Replies: 8
- Views: 6674
Re: my mum
Hi Mandylou,
So sorry to hear about your mum.
Even though we know how ill they are, it's still such a shock when it happens so quickly and suddenly.
Thinking of you.
So sorry to hear about your mum.
Even though we know how ill they are, it's still such a shock when it happens so quickly and suddenly.
Thinking of you.
- Tue Mar 20, 2012 9:09 am
- Forum: Family, friends and carers
- Topic: My husbands pancreatic cancer situation
- Replies: 67
- Views: 69989
Re: My husbands pancreatic cancer situation
Hi Sooty, I have to say I experienced something similar with the hospital when taking care of my husband. When they're admitted they find a bed on any ward, then it's never a specialist doctor they see just one that's on call,I too found this very frustating.Once I found him left on a day ward with ...
- Thu Feb 23, 2012 2:27 pm
- Forum: News archive
- Topic: Metal stents superior to Plastic?
- Replies: 1
- Views: 9949
Re: Metal stents superior to Plastic?
When first diagnosed my husband had a plastic stent placed in his bile duct, six weeks later it had to be replaced with another because it had got blocked and caused an infection, at which time he had to miss chemo.A few weeks after that it got blocked again,this time a metal stent was put in and re...
- Thu Feb 23, 2012 1:17 pm
- Forum: News archive
- Topic: Just read this - another young one passes
- Replies: 5
- Views: 12156
Re: Just read this - another young one passes
I'm sorry but this story has left me feeling really angry at our health service. Having experienced similar dismisals over several months, with my once fit and healthy husband. I know not everyone they see has pc,but this was just guess work,(no mention of blood tests) Whilst there is an increased r...
- Mon Feb 20, 2012 3:50 pm
- Forum: Advanced pancreatic cancer
- Topic: Ted - an update
- Replies: 15
- Views: 12262
Re: Ted - an update
Hi Nicki,
When I first posted on this site, your replies gave me hope.
Ted seemed to defy the odds,which I would imagine gives lots of people hope.
Today I want to send that hope back to you,hoping that Ted continues to defy the odds.
Thinking of you...
Mints x
When I first posted on this site, your replies gave me hope.
Ted seemed to defy the odds,which I would imagine gives lots of people hope.
Today I want to send that hope back to you,hoping that Ted continues to defy the odds.
Thinking of you...
Mints x
- Thu Dec 29, 2011 12:10 am
- Forum: Advanced pancreatic cancer
- Topic: Steve Didn't Make Christmas
- Replies: 15
- Views: 11272
Re: Steve Didn't Make Christmas
Hi Diane,
Many of us have different ways of getting through these days
Our memories and treasured possesions are so very important now
I sincereley hope you find your own way to cope with your loss.
Take care
Many of us have different ways of getting through these days
Our memories and treasured possesions are so very important now
I sincereley hope you find your own way to cope with your loss.
Take care
- Mon Dec 12, 2011 6:00 pm
- Forum: Coping with loss/ Memorial
- Topic: Welcome to this new forum on coping with loss
- Replies: 31
- Views: 52565
Re: Welcome to this new forum on coping with loss
Hi Helen&Dairylee, Seems we're all struggling at the moment,as xmas gets nearer.I can't wait for it to be over,I try to block out as much as possible, like Lynbo I haven't put up a tree or any decorations,not even sent a card,this is my first xmas without my husband Helen it's tough for you as your ...