Pancreatic Cancer UK

Hi all,
This is my second xmas without my lovley husband,I have to say harder than the first.
The first year I didn't allow myself to think too much bcause it was too painful,this year I went away for a few days, escaping it again,maybe one day i'll have to face it head on.

Hi Sue, I haven't posted on this site for a while but still follow peoples stories,your post moved me, as it reminded me a little, of my own experience. The bombshell of the diagnosis and prognosis just turns your world upsidedown. My advice would be not to focus too much on how much time you may ha...

Hi Sharrie, Again, a similar story. We saw a district nurse in the morning who said she would "flag up"when things got worse. Later that day my husband collapsed and died, alone, while I was at the shops. I remember spending days analysing coversations with health proffessionals, and tormenting myse...

Hi Sharrie, First of all,welcome. There are many of us in this exclusive club that no-one wants to be in, but it can be a huge comfort, if only to know we are not alone. The tears, tiredness, and the dread of each day does ease, I think, by doing little things that bring us comfort, like lighting a ...

Hi Genie, Like you I tried to think about what to expect but,it's very difficult to predict the end. Even the district nurse that came in on the day he died said she would (flag up) if she felt things were getting worse. To this day without a post mortem, we don't know if it was due to the artery ru...

Hi Rachel,

I'm sure everywhere is different,but we always had an appointment with the oncologist approx a month after a scan.
Good luck with the results.

Hello Barbara, Just read your post and it took me back to the same emotional rollercoaster. I lost my husband (50)nine months ago,a once fit and healty man.The diagnosis alone sends your head spinning, not having faced this before it's difficult to know what questions to ask,or what you're likely to...

Nicki

I'm so so sorry, I'm almost lost for words.
I hope you take comfort in the fact that his passing was peaceful and that you were with him.
Your posts frequently gave us all hope.

'Although it's difficult to see beyond the sorrow,
may looking back in memory help comfort you tomorrow'

Hi Mandylou,
So sorry to hear about your mum.
Even though we know how ill they are, it's still such a shock when it happens so quickly and suddenly.
Thinking of you.

Hi Sooty, I have to say I experienced something similar with the hospital when taking care of my husband. When they're admitted they find a bed on any ward, then it's never a specialist doctor they see just one that's on call,I too found this very frustating.Once I found him left on a day ward with ...

When first diagnosed my husband had a plastic stent placed in his bile duct, six weeks later it had to be replaced with another because it had got blocked and caused an infection, at which time he had to miss chemo.A few weeks after that it got blocked again,this time a metal stent was put in and re...

I'm sorry but this story has left me feeling really angry at our health service. Having experienced similar dismisals over several months, with my once fit and healthy husband. I know not everyone they see has pc,but this was just guess work,(no mention of blood tests) Whilst there is an increased r...

Hi Nicki,

When I first posted on this site, your replies gave me hope.
Ted seemed to defy the odds,which I would imagine gives lots of people hope.
Today I want to send that hope back to you,hoping that Ted continues to defy the odds.
Thinking of you...

Mints x

Hi Diane,
Many of us have different ways of getting through these days
Our memories and treasured possesions are so very important now
I sincereley hope you find your own way to cope with your loss.
Take care

Hi Helen&Dairylee, Seems we're all struggling at the moment,as xmas gets nearer.I can't wait for it to be over,I try to block out as much as possible, like Lynbo I haven't put up a tree or any decorations,not even sent a card,this is my first xmas without my husband Helen it's tough for you as your ...