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Veebee
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Re: Thanks for sharing your experiences . . .

Postby Veebee » Wed May 31, 2017 10:37 am

Hello Mo I hope you're feeling more rested and that your foot is on the mend. You're a blooming hero travelling all that way after your injury and your situation with Peter. Take care Vee xxxx

Justamo
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Re: Thanks for sharing your experiences . . .

Postby Justamo » Thu Jun 01, 2017 7:55 pm

You are lovely. All of you.

To be honest I'm just a bit down in the dumps lately. Naffing PC rocks your foundations and saps your confidence. I've spent ages doing this programme for the golf club (normally a job I just love) and tried four or five layouts for every page. What's all that about ?

My Patient had his last chemo two weeks ago and had a scan on Monday. Results from Dr Feelgood in a couple of weeks. We see his diabetes specialist nurse next week and I hope he will reduce or modify the insulin because we are having daily hypos. Manageable, but scarey.

So we're in limbo at the moment. Totally glorious weather which has cheered Peter up, he's playing one or two holes of golf and tearing about on his buggy making a nuisance of himself.
Boris is a very happy boy because there are birds feeding baby birds all over our garden and his mission is to catch one. The birds are smarter than him and wait till he's almost nose-to-beak before they do a vertical take off manoeuvre. He's happy enough to settle for a Dreamie instead of a feathery snack so we're all happy.

Except me, and I've got the miseries. It won't last and I'll wallow for a day or two and then get over it. I've got plenty to be thankful for despite being on Planet PC and this forum keeps me grounded.

Love to all of you
Mo

Marmalade

Re: Thanks for sharing your experiences . . .

Postby Marmalade » Thu Jun 01, 2017 9:58 pm

Oh how I sympathise Mo,

You are not alone in the moods, living with the elephant in the room is very wearing. Try and have a nice swim when Peter is whizzing round on his buggy and as to the work...there is a time for work and a time to just not bother...

Much love, prayers and cyber hugs,

M xxx

Elaine123
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Re: Thanks for sharing your experiences . . .

Postby Elaine123 » Thu Jun 01, 2017 10:57 pm

Hi Mo thinking of you and I know that down feeling so well and as you say it goes eventually after a few days then it's onwards and upwards again. It really is a 24/7 life isn't it as there always seemed seemed to be something new to worry about. Try and get some rest as without it then it is harder to bounce back. As M said there is a time just to not bother about work and things that need done. Sending love and prayers
Elaine
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Veema
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Re: Thanks for sharing your experiences . . .

Postby Veema » Fri Jun 02, 2017 7:50 am

Upcoming scan results always made me feel that way...you get to the point of bumbling along quite nicely and then wham! it's scan results time.

Everything crossed for positive news x

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Elaine123
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Re: Thanks for sharing your experiences . . .

Postby Elaine123 » Wed Jun 07, 2017 12:09 pm

Hi Mo haven't seen you here lately ....I hope all is okay , just get a bit concerned when no news. Thinking of you both.
Elaine x

Justamo
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Re: Thanks for sharing your experiences . . .

Postby Justamo » Wed Jun 07, 2017 7:35 pm

You really are the nicest people. I'm OK-ish, just a bit down in the dumps, but today I finally delivered this naffing programme to the printers so now I have time to get stressed out about something else. It's ridiculous, it's a job I love doing and really look forward to it but this year I couldn't get anything right. I've redone it about 5 times which is not my style at all, and it's as though I've lost confidence.

Peter has had a hypo every day since last Saturday so I'm really glad we have an appointment with the Diabetes Specialist Nurse and the Dietitian tomorrow. It seems to me that his insulin dose is too high, and then suddenly his blood sugar is up to 15 when he hasn't actually eaten anything. Of course, I treat the whole performance as though it's an Open University course and I have to get the right answers to every module, when actually I should keep on repeating my mantra which is "You're on Planet PC. Deal with it". I've heard it called brittle diabetes too - or did I just make that up ? Anyway, it doesn't stop me wanting to control it all, which is impossible.

He stayed in bed all day on Saturday and Sunday. Totally exhausted. And although he says he hasn't got an appetite it didn't stop him asking for seconds of Sunday's roast lunch. He's eating more or less everything I give him and I'm running the freezer quite low in anticipation of gems of wisdom from the dietitian. I hope it's the fat one with the huge bosom. She's nice.

Peter's bed has got one of these useful sliding door arrangements underneath it to hide dirty laundry and keep all your money, and Boris has discovered How It Works. He can stick a paw neatly into the fingerhold and shuffle, and lo and behold there's a nice dark space for him to hide. I spent most of Sunday afternoon out in the POURING rain shouting forlornly for my cat, only to discover the little basket tucked up lovely and cosy inside the bed. It was the first time Peter has laughed for a few days so I suppose there's a silver lining in this particular cloud. If I was into cat-abuse there would have been a smacked bottom too, but even I'm not that bad.

We see Dr Feelgood in about 10 day's time and will get the scan results then too. I've got no concrete reason to think it, but I'm expecting the worst and hoping for the best. Maybe I'm pessimistic because I've got a dose of the miseries. Just ignore me. It'll be all sweetness and light next week.

Even though I'm feeling quiet I keep up with the forum news and get my 'Fix' first thing in the morning.

Oh, and I almost forgot to tell you: Boris has discovered where I planted his Catnip. Only one plant is available at a time, and the other 4 are in high dependency units made of wire waste-paper baskets so that he can't eat/roll/trample on all 5 at the same time. Consequently he has been tripping out any time the rain stops and I'll never get the mud off his nice white coat. Turn on, tune in, and drop out. Wish it affected me like that.

Love
Mo

Veema
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Re: Thanks for sharing your experiences . . .

Postby Veema » Wed Jun 07, 2017 7:46 pm

I always find it best to expect the worst...the reality is generally better, so you come out feeling all positive...its when you expect the worst and then the news is just that...that's not a good day. Fingers crossed for things being more positive than you expect.

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stepuha
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Re: Thanks for sharing your experiences . . .

Postby stepuha » Thu Jun 08, 2017 7:43 pm

Hello Mo,
I am sorry to hear that you have been feeling down but I understand that scan results and uncertainty don't make it any easier. I can't understand why I can get my scan results the same day and everyone on NHS has to wait weeks for the results. It almost feels like cruelty. The 30 minutes I have to wait for the scan results I feel physically sick. I can't imagine how I would feel if I had to wait for weeks.
Is sounds like besides the diabetes issue Peter is actually feeling OK which must be a good sign. I hope the diabetes specialist nurse gets his symptoms under control. Fingers crossed, the scan results will be positive.
Now, I would like to ask you for your professional opinion as a cat owner :-) Our kittens have arrived and brought a lot of joy with them. Unfortunately, we keep having accidents, mainly on one specific place on the sofa, even though they seem to be pretty good at going to their toilet most of the time. What is the trick to get them to stop?
I am off to write an update on my story, a few excitements but all for the wrong reasons.
Lots of love,
stepuha

Justamo
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Re: Thanks for sharing your experiences . . .

Postby Justamo » Fri Jun 09, 2017 7:12 pm

Hello Stephua, nice to hear from you.

Cats will seldom toilet and eat in the same place. Try feeding them treats in the spot which they are using as a litter tray. If that doesn't work, oil of citronella is repugnant to cats so a tiny dab of that on the spot may help. DON'T use disinfectant as phenol is terribly poisonous to cats. Is it pee or poo ? If it's pee, and only one of the kittens is doing it, it could be a sign of cystitis. If it's poo then it's a mistake and must be corrected as described above, otherwise it will become a habit.

I have bred kittens in the past and have never had to house train them as their mum usually does that. But I did buy a female that would distribute little messages all over the house and I was never able to cure it. Boris was an adult when I got him; he had been used for breeding and then neutered, and I was lucky enough to buy him when he was put up for rehoming. He had been used to cat litter with his breeder, but I use sawdust. He adapted to it very quickly.

I wonder what your kittens had been using in their birth home ? Try to find out and use the same. It might make a difference.

Best love, Mo

Justamo
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Re: Thanks for sharing your experiences . . .

Postby Justamo » Fri Jun 09, 2017 7:34 pm

Hello folks. Sorry if you're allergic to cats, stay well away from the previous post and you'll be OK. Or take a Pirotin or something.

We saw the Diabetes Specialist Nurse and the Dietitian yesterday. It wasn't the fat dietitian with the huge bosom which she rests on the desk while she talks to you, this was a new Dietitian who looked about 14 and she was very very skinny. But nice.

Peter and the nurse settled down to a good old gossip about golf, and the Nurses's bad back, and the Skinny Dietitian and I smiled at each other, and then eventually we all remembered why we were there and Peter told all of us exactly what he ate everyday. Naturally enough, it was just a pack of lies, and I had bought the food diary which details everything right down to a shake of salt and pepper to prove it. The Nurse suggested a reduction of insulin, and the Dietitian suggested using a spoonful of sweetener on porridge instead of maple syrup. And then we all went home.

Actually we didn't. We went to Tescos to buy some sweetener which somehow turned into a full trolley and nearly £70, but it did leave me free this morning to swim and have a coffee with my mate Millie and listen to her problems with the new central heating system she's paid a fortune for and which doesn't work. Quite nice listening to a problem which isn't hospital related, so we refilled our cups and talked some more. Peter went to play golf, except that he should have been building an ark instead because the heavy rain had flooded the course and all the golfers were sitting in the bar sulking and drinking coffee and eating bacon rolls instead of hitting golf balls. But it was a nice change for both of us.

Peter has forgotten about his lack of appetite and polished off a lovely fillet of plaice, chips and peas tonight. In deference to the Skinny Dietitian I didn't suggest ice cream afterwards, and since tea he's been too busy shouting at Rafa Nadal to think about it.

You get so used to Wimbledon and hearing "Bonk, bonk, Thirtay Fortay" that it's lovely to hear the French umpire murmuring "Vontaaaaaage Nadal".

And he had maple syrup on his porridge this morning. Peter, not Nadal.
Nadal had Huevos Rancheros I expect.

Have a nice weekend
Love, Mo

stepuha
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Re: Thanks for sharing your experiences . . .

Postby stepuha » Fri Jun 09, 2017 9:49 pm

Many thanks, Mo. Very helpful advice.
Very simple solutions from the nurse and dietician. I hope they make a difference.
Have a lovely weekend!
x stepuha

Marmalade

Re: Thanks for sharing your experiences . . .

Postby Marmalade » Sat Jun 10, 2017 9:22 pm

Mo, in case you were in any doubt, we love you to bits. Peter and Wimbledon remind me of Louis shouting at the TV and your commentary had me in fits. Glad the project is done and delivered. Time now for you to get your mojo back, swim, garden, join the cafe society or whatever charges your batteries. We've all said it, the waiting is hell whatever you are waiting for, you can't forget it and you can't move on so you tread water and it's exhausting. You're doing great you gorgeous, funny, talented woman. Love and hugs M xxx

Elaine123
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Re: Thanks for sharing your experiences . . .

Postby Elaine123 » Sun Jun 11, 2017 7:36 pm

Hi Mo just a quick note to say loved your post you somehow bring Peters escapades to life and I can practically picture them in my mind . The tall tales about what he had ate made me chuckle as Pete told the exact same tales lol. Thinking of you both...love and hugs
Elaine
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Veema
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Re: Thanks for sharing your experiences . . .

Postby Veema » Sun Jun 11, 2017 9:37 pm

Love you Mo...I often rest my bosom on the table...takes the strain off the bra!

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