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Re: my husband of 2 weeks with weeks to live

Postby Fifi » Fri Feb 06, 2015 9:07 pm

Echo what Didge said. Thinking of you.

Please keep posting if you need to.

Leila xx

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Re: my husband of 2 weeks with weeks to live

Postby scoobymandy » Sat Feb 07, 2015 3:00 pm

Hi thankyou for all your replies. Today ive been told by my mother thst there is nothing else anyone can do to help my dad as every antibiotic they have given him has failed hes been like this for a week now hes in no pain which i am so grateful for but extremly tired and very weak they are thinking that he should be placed in a hospice to make him more comfortable before he passes away my mother has been so strong shes had to cope with this vile disease for 3 half years now and painfully watching him die it breaks my heart to think that this disease has taken not just my husband but my dad too. We are all distraught and in fairness i just wish he would go peacefully in his sleep it may sound selfish but ive already seen what it does to someone at first had and i dont wanna relive it all again but ime having day by day waiting for that phonecall to come and say goodbye. I wish this was all a dream but sadley its not

Didge
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Re: my husband of 2 weeks with weeks to live

Postby Didge » Sat Feb 07, 2015 7:09 pm

These terrible times just have to be borne, even though it is so hard. I am sure I speak for everyone here when I say that we are all thinking of you in the hard times ahead and are here for you whenever you need us. x

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Re: my husband of 2 weeks with weeks to live

Postby SusannaUK » Mon Feb 09, 2015 9:12 am

Dear Mandy,

I've just read first time your thread this morning, it is just so sad, so unfair.
Thinking of you and wish you all the strength.
Susanna x

scoobymandy
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Re: my husband of 2 weeks with weeks to live

Postby scoobymandy » Thu Feb 19, 2015 2:37 pm

Sadley my dad passed away 15/02/2015 after his long battle with this disease and also the strokes he had caused by his chemo he was having he was so brave and fought hard he was on remission of 18months and no one could of imagined he would been taken from us over three years of battling have whipples op and 3 lots of chemo 6 strokes the last one was the major one lost all his speach his ability to swallow or comunicate with anyone my families life has been turned upside down again and the greaving process has never really left as 2 years ago i lost my husband and we have to start again this is evil disease and our family doesnt need anymore heart ache in the past 4 years we have lost 3 big family members two to cancer one a brain hemorrage youngest 45 oldest 74

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Re: my husband of 2 weeks with weeks to live

Postby MSH » Thu Feb 19, 2015 5:13 pm

Sorry to learn your news, you've really been through the mill in recent times. As you say this disease can be so cruel.

My condolences.

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Re: my husband of 2 weeks with weeks to live

Postby Slewis7313 » Thu Feb 19, 2015 6:11 pm

Really sorry to hear your very sad news. You have had a lot to contend with over the last few years and now to lose your dear Dad after a long battle with this awful disease must be so difficult.

My thoughts are with you at this hard time.

Steve
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Re: my husband of 2 weeks with weeks to live

Postby Sueoliver » Thu Feb 19, 2015 6:43 pm

I am so sorry to hear your sad news. Thinking of you. Sue x

Didge
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Re: my husband of 2 weeks with weeks to live

Postby Didge » Thu Feb 19, 2015 8:09 pm

Very sorry to hear the news. I do hope there are happier times ahead for you in due course. You certainly deserve it! Thinking of you x

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Re: my husband of 2 weeks with weeks to live

Postby sandraW » Thu Feb 19, 2015 10:58 pm

Echoing every ones sentiments and sending sincere condolences to you and all your family. What a truly horrendous time you have all had, over the last few years. Thinking of you all, please take care sandrax

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Re: my husband of 2 weeks with weeks to live

Postby PCUK Nurse Jeni » Mon Feb 23, 2015 1:19 pm

So sorry to hear of the news that your dad has passed away.

Sending you our condolences from all at Pancreatic Cancer UK.
Take care of yourself - we are here for you should you need us.
Kind regards,

Jeni.

SusannaUK
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Re: my husband of 2 weeks with weeks to live

Postby SusannaUK » Mon Feb 23, 2015 1:50 pm

Dear Mandy,

I am so sorry to read that your dear Dad has passed away. It is just so cruel. You've gone through so much in the last few years, just so unfair.
I am sending you and your family my condolences.
Thinking of you. Please take care.
Susanna xxx

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Re: my husband of 2 weeks with weeks to live

Postby jay » Mon Feb 23, 2015 4:44 pm

I am so sorry to hear of your sad news,thinking of you all
love Jayne
xx

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Re: my husband of 2 weeks with weeks to live

Postby scoobymandy » Mon Feb 23, 2015 5:46 pm

Thankyou for all your kind words my mum is devestated he was her life for 28 years and she did all she could to help him through the tough times my mum is all i have left in my family now and it destroys me to see her so sad there is nothing i can do to try and make this any easier for her all she wants is my dad back she sits on the sofa cuddling his blanket and looking at his picture constantly crying i just dunno what to do it i jave kids of my own and my mum lives quite far away from me

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Re: my husband of 2 weeks with weeks to live

Postby Didge » Mon Feb 23, 2015 10:31 pm

We each need to grieve in our own way, in ways which are sometimes distressing to others. If this is what your mum feels she needs to do, then she must. Perhaps it brings her a little comfort. Thinking of you and your mum xx