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LMD
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Saying goodbye ...

Postby LMD » Sat Nov 15, 2014 10:46 pm

Hi
Thank you everyone who posts here. Over the last 15 months I've read the posts on this forum pretty much every evening - I've only posted a few times myself (as my father was very private) but I feel as though I know you so well!...
The website, this forum, the conversations/telephone calls and e.mails with Dianne and Jeni have been my 'lifeline'.....

Yesterday was my fathers funeral. A few hundred people paid their respects and gave him an amazing send off. My Dad was my hero and I love and miss him so much. There are no words to describe the loss... From the moment he was diagnosed he remained positive and remained that way until the end. One thing he said to me during his last days was that I should stay strong and that's what I'm trying to do.

My father was diagnosed with inoperable pancreatic cancer and went on to tolerate his chemo well (Gemcap) and lived with his diagnosis for over a year until a complication took over.......

Thank you again to everyone who shared - I've shed (many) tears and found a lot of helpful information here - It's all helped to remain hopeful right until the end.

Thinking of you all
LMD
Xxxx

Didge
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Re: Saying goodbye ...

Postby Didge » Sun Nov 16, 2014 12:44 am

Thinking of you too at this sad time x

J_T
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Re: Saying goodbye ...

Postby J_T » Sun Nov 16, 2014 10:19 am

So sorry to hear of your father's death. My thoughts are with you at this difficult time.

Love
Julia x

Slewis7313
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Re: Saying goodbye ...

Postby Slewis7313 » Sun Nov 16, 2014 10:24 am

So very sorry to hear your sad news.

Steve
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Fifi

Re: Saying goodbye ...

Postby Fifi » Sun Nov 16, 2014 7:11 pm

I really am so sorry to be reading this post. I have genuinely shed tears for you and your dad. I did not expect to see this today. I knew he had taken a bad turn, but didn't realise how bad.

I am so so sorry for your loss. I hope he wasn't in any pain. I also hope the funeral went as well as could be expected.

Please still come here to post. I understand your privacy, but it may help to release some feelings.

Sending lots of love and hugs........

Leila xxx

karen68
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Re: Saying goodbye ...

Postby karen68 » Sun Nov 16, 2014 9:15 pm

So very sorry.Sending you love and strength x

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Re: Saying goodbye ...

Postby sandraW » Mon Nov 17, 2014 7:50 pm

Sincere condolences to you and your family, please take care sandrax

Sueoliver
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Re: Saying goodbye ...

Postby Sueoliver » Mon Nov 17, 2014 9:10 pm

So sorry to read your sad news. Take care. Love Sue x

MSH
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Re: Saying goodbye ...

Postby MSH » Tue Nov 18, 2014 3:54 pm

Sorry to hear of your sad news.

My condolences.

Mark

LMD
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Re: Saying goodbye ...

Postby LMD » Wed Nov 19, 2014 6:47 pm

Thank you everyone.

We were with Dad until he passed and thankfully his pain levels were under control. It's so hard to believe that he's no longer with us...

Am thinking about writing on the tribute page - (Julia, I saw your lovely tribute for your husband) and will do soon.

Leila - I often think of you and your Dad too xx

Hope things are going well with everyone .... Stay strong x

karen68
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Re: Saying goodbye ...

Postby karen68 » Mon Nov 24, 2014 12:19 pm

Dear LMD
I just wanted to say how sorry I am for your loss of your dad.
Like you, I have read this forum daily for several months, and only posted a couple of times, but gained so much invaluable support and information.
We lost my dad 13 days ago and I expect my pain is as raw as yours.
Sending you love and strength.
Karen x

LMD
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Re: Saying goodbye ...

Postby LMD » Wed Nov 26, 2014 10:20 pm

Hello Karen
Thank you for the message... I am so sorry for the loss of your Dad too.
Our fathers were in hospital at the same time - I remember reading your posts as I was sitting with Dad.
You're right, it's all so raw still and at times still doesn't seem real. I hope you are as ok as can be and also send you a lot of love and strength at this sad and difficult time. You're not alone xxx

karen68
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Re: Saying goodbye ...

Postby karen68 » Thu Nov 27, 2014 4:46 pm

Thank you. You're so right about it not seeming real - I feel like this is happening to someone else not me, and I still can't quite believe I will never see or hear my dad again.
It's comforting in a strange sort of way to connect with someone who has probably experienced and is experiencing a similar situation.
I hope you're as OK as possible too xx

LMD
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Re: Saying goodbye ...

Postby LMD » Sat Nov 29, 2014 11:05 pm

I know what you mean xxx

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Re: Saying goodbye ...

Postby Ruthos1 » Tue Dec 02, 2014 12:07 am

I send my sincerest condolences and hugs to you.
I feel that my darling mum is nearing the end as well.Its heartbreaking.
Ruth
xx